I woke up from a nightmare this morning. It was a nightmare involving a divorce from Mrs. DM. In the nightmare, she had filed on me, and did not give me a reason why she did so. It was a terrifying dream for me. Of course, it was all a demonic lie to torment me. … Continue reading “Demonic Dreams”
Category: Grief
But some truly ARE crazy!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense…. -Proverbs 6:32a, NIV A common word of advice in the dating world is not to date a divorced individual who describes their ex as “crazy.”* Maybe you have heard this one? Such bad-mouthing of an ex is treated as a major red flag. The idea is that … Continue reading “But some truly ARE crazy!”
Sometimes distraction is helpful.
When I was heading for my divorce and then recovering from it, I had some wonderful friends who helped distract me from the pain. It was a gift. I hope you have a true friend or two who does that for you as well. Sometimes, we need a break from the grief work. That is … Continue reading “Sometimes distraction is helpful.”
An encouraging Crowder song
“Come As You Are” by Crowder is a song that I have recently (re?)discovered and grown to appreciate. The song was first released in 2014. It has rich, soothing lyrics. I hope as you click on the YouTube video above and watch the lyrics that you will find yourself encouraged and blessed by this beautiful … Continue reading “An encouraging Crowder song”
Silver Lining about friends following cheating revelations
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:7, NLT A blessing in disguise with cheating revelation is how that awful news exposes ones true friends verses erstwhile “friends.” I am SOOOO grateful for the many friends who passed that fire-test. These are people who stood … Continue reading “Silver Lining about friends following cheating revelations”
That dismembered feeling.
I work in hospice and have the opportunity to watch the poignant beauty of marriages that have lasted well past fifty years.* I say, “poignant” because I feel both awed by the sheer beauty of a couple still caring for each other after many decades together as well as sad by my own loss. Recently, … Continue reading “That dismembered feeling.”
Dear DM, I want to reconcile, but…
Dear Divorce Minister, I married my husband after 1.5 years of dating, in church. Both of us were Christian or so I thought. After 9 months of marriage, when I was 36 weeks pregnant, my husband came back from an overseas trip and told me he cheated on me. He asked for a divorce. He … Continue reading “Dear DM, I want to reconcile, but…”
Grief resource for helping someone dealing with loss
So they sat down with him upon the ground seven days and seven nights, and none spake a word unto him: for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, KJV Below is a little video teaching on how to support someone going through difficult losses. I could not help but think of … Continue reading “Grief resource for helping someone dealing with loss”
Need a safe place to fall apart.
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance…. -Ecclesiastes 3:4, KJV When a marriage ends, we need a space where we can be honest with our pain. Often times, that includes “the ugly cry.” I encourage you all to find a place where you can … Continue reading “Need a safe place to fall apart.”
Hope settled.
… and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. -Romans 5:4b-5a, NLT Sometimes, it is hard to hope. That makes sense. This is especially so in light of the devastating losses that come with divorce from a cheater. In these seasons, I find it important to remember … Continue reading “Hope settled.”