“And all his sons and all his daughters rose up to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted….” -Genesis 37:35, KJV In two days, it will have been seven years since my divorce was officially made final. Hard to believe it has been that long. God has transformed my life since that sad day; … Continue reading “Still a shock.”
Category: Grief
Demonic Dreams
I woke up from a nightmare this morning. It was a nightmare involving a divorce from Mrs. DM. In the nightmare, she had filed on me, and did not give me a reason why she did so. It was a terrifying dream for me. Of course, it was all a demonic lie to torment me. … Continue reading “Demonic Dreams”
But some truly ARE crazy!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense…. -Proverbs 6:32a, NIV A common word of advice in the dating world is not to date a divorced individual who describes their ex as “crazy.”* Maybe you have heard this one? Such bad-mouthing of an ex is treated as a major red flag. The idea is that … Continue reading “But some truly ARE crazy!”
Sometimes distraction is helpful.
When I was heading for my divorce and then recovering from it, I had some wonderful friends who helped distract me from the pain. It was a gift. I hope you have a true friend or two who does that for you as well. Sometimes, we need a break from the grief work. That is … Continue reading “Sometimes distraction is helpful.”
An encouraging Crowder song
“Come As You Are” by Crowder is a song that I have recently (re?)discovered and grown to appreciate. The song was first released in 2014. It has rich, soothing lyrics. I hope as you click on the YouTube video above and watch the lyrics that you will find yourself encouraged and blessed by this beautiful … Continue reading “An encouraging Crowder song”
Silver Lining about friends following cheating revelations
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:7, NLT A blessing in disguise with cheating revelation is how that awful news exposes ones true friends verses erstwhile “friends.” I am SOOOO grateful for the many friends who passed that fire-test. These are people who stood … Continue reading “Silver Lining about friends following cheating revelations”
That dismembered feeling.
I work in hospice and have the opportunity to watch the poignant beauty of marriages that have lasted well past fifty years.* I say, “poignant” because I feel both awed by the sheer beauty of a couple still caring for each other after many decades together as well as sad by my own loss. Recently, … Continue reading “That dismembered feeling.”
Dear DM, I want to reconcile, but…
Dear Divorce Minister, I married my husband after 1.5 years of dating, in church. Both of us were Christian or so I thought. After 9 months of marriage, when I was 36 weeks pregnant, my husband came back from an overseas trip and told me he cheated on me. He asked for a divorce. He … Continue reading “Dear DM, I want to reconcile, but…”
Grief resource for helping someone dealing with loss
So they sat down with him upon the ground seven days and seven nights, and none spake a word unto him: for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, KJV Below is a little video teaching on how to support someone going through difficult losses. I could not help but think of … Continue reading “Grief resource for helping someone dealing with loss”
Need a safe place to fall apart.
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance…. -Ecclesiastes 3:4, KJV When a marriage ends, we need a space where we can be honest with our pain. Often times, that includes “the ugly cry.” I encourage you all to find a place where you can … Continue reading “Need a safe place to fall apart.”