Happy Father’s Day, Faithful Dads!

7 For your shame ye shall have double; and for confusion they shall rejoice in their portion: therefore in their land they shall possess the double: everlasting joy shall be unto them. -Isaiah 61:7, KJV Our society occasionally acknowledges the difficulty for mothers on Mother’s Day. Sadly, we don’t do as good a job acknowledging the … Continue reading “Happy Father’s Day, Faithful Dads!”

Grief, Gratitude, and Entitlement

“Naked I came from my mother’s womb,    and naked I will depart.The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;    may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:21b, NIV We can cause all sorts of suffering for ourselves if we approach our losses with a sense of entitlement. What do I mean?  I am talking about those implicit contracts we “made” … Continue reading “Grief, Gratitude, and Entitlement”

Relief of Acknowledgment

Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV When going through adultery discovery, the validation of true friends is a balm to a hurting soul. Religious people are tempted to foist “forgiveness” on the grieving faithful spouse. They skip over the acknowledgement of the severe injustices the faithful … Continue reading “Relief of Acknowledgment”

Those type of “friends”

If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both must die. Purge that evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, The Message (emphasis mine) Those “friends” One of the most difficult lessons I learned from discovering my first wife’s adultery and going through divorce is that it is okay–in fact, good–to have deal-breakers in friendships. … Continue reading “Those type of “friends””

DM Book Sale!

For a limited time, I have dropped prices on my book. Currently, I have dropped the paperback prices from $12.99 to $8.99. The eBook is now only $3.99 from its regular price of $7.99. As you purchase books, read, and share the ideas in the book, you are helping spread these much needed ideas. The … Continue reading “DM Book Sale!”

Mailbag: Forgiveness Question

Hi, I have a question about forgiveness. Its clear in the scriptures that God doesn’t forgive unless a human repents, and repentance means to feel deep remorse AND stop the sin and go the other way. My X wife remains in her adulterous relationship. I believe that a human divorce does not make her relationship … Continue reading “Mailbag: Forgiveness Question”

Forgiveness as a test of faith in Jesus

From his temple he heard my voice;    my cry came before him, into his ears.The earth trembled and quaked,    and the foundations of the mountains shook;    they trembled because he was angry. -Psalm 18:6b-7, NIV Can I trust God with my hurt? I think the answer to this question answering the question of whether or not I can forgive someone … Continue reading “Forgiveness as a test of faith in Jesus”

The gift of a heartbreak

  The gift of a heartbreak. Having one’s heart broken by a cheater is not fun. It hurts A LOT!! Yet, a gift is present even in that pain: That gift is a reminder that you HAVE a heart! You attached. That is a good thing. People who do not attach to their partners are … Continue reading “The gift of a heartbreak”

To Be Seen: Where are the godly divorced testimonies in church?

Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. -Matthew 1:19, NIV And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; … Continue reading “To Be Seen: Where are the godly divorced testimonies in church?”