Beware that the ending of your marriage leaves you vulnerable! I am not suggesting living in fear. However, I recommend a sober-eyed assessment about how your needs leave you open to unhealthy relationships. In separation and early divorce, you are grieving and learning how to deal with loneliness and loss of intimacy with the opposite … Continue reading “Vulnerable, vulnerable, vulnerable!”
Category: Grief
Probably will always touch my heart….
It happened again today. I was watching a reality TV show, and the owner of a restaurant shared his story of divorce from the mother of his children who cheated on him with a younger man, a teenager! He discovered his then wife’s infidelity when she became pregnant even though he had had a vasectomy. … Continue reading “Probably will always touch my heart….”
Gratitude through Grief
“Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4, KJV Gifts from grief came along with all the hard, traumatic losses of my first marriage. For starters, I appreciate what was restored to me more. I do not take my position as a husband and father today for granted. This was driven … Continue reading “Gratitude through Grief”
Good memories bring the pain
And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light. -2 Corinthians 11:14, KJV While discovering adultery is awful, I think some of the more lasting pain comes from the positive experiences one had while married to a cheater. These memories–whether built on a lie or not–suggest things could have been otherwise. … Continue reading “Good memories bring the pain”
Just because you can’t see it now…DON’T GIVE UP HOPE!!!
To all who mourn in Israel… …a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. -ISAIAH 61:3a, b, NLT When my divorce was fresh, I remember feeling great sadness over the thought of losing the opportunity to be a father. That was six years ago. It was a dark time. … Continue reading “Just because you can’t see it now…DON’T GIVE UP HOPE!!!”
Community Divorce Grief
Divorce impacts a community. Like the sin of adultery, it is not a private affair (see Deut. 22:22). The divorce hits the whole network of relationships. It is painful to face the reality that a couple is no longer a couple. This is doubly so when you like and connected with both spouses. This way … Continue reading “Community Divorce Grief”
Six years later…
Today is a negative anniversary. And a positive one retrospectively. Six years ago to this day, I received a message from my divorce lawyer notifying me that my marriage to my first wife was officially and legally ended. I was officially single (and divorced). Each anniversary, the pain has been less and less. … Continue reading “Six years later…”
It is a complicated grief.
Grief hurts. It surprises even years after the loss. You might think you have “dealt with that” only to discover feelings ambush you at some surprise moment. Our culture does not do grief well. Churches can be especially bad on this number. This is particularly true as it comes to the grief associated with a … Continue reading “It is a complicated grief.”
Grief Smack From Nowhere
In the day of my trouble I sought the Lord; My hand was stretched out in the night without ceasing; My soul refused to be comforted. -Psalm 77:2, NKJV Grief gets me with positive memories or associations from the past. It is strange like that. Years of never thinking about something or someone are suddenly … Continue reading “Grief Smack From Nowhere”
The Rejected Ones Tribe
Jesus is “‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” -Acts 4:11-12, NIV How is Jesus identified by the Apostle Peter on Pentecost? He is The Rejected One. This … Continue reading “The Rejected Ones Tribe”