He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out of deep waters. -Psalm 18:16, NIV Like violent water rushing down a channel, harsh circumstances can serve as the means to deepen our hearts and expand their capacity. Losses are huge for divorced faithful spouses. The loss of “friendships,” love, money, … Continue reading “Deep Losses Can Lead To Deep Gratitude”
Category: Grief
Godly Sorrow and Discerning Advice
Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. – 2 Cor. 7:10, NIV When you see the fruit of advice destroying someone or yourself, you are seeing something bringing death as this verse tells us. This is not from God. God is not one who came … Continue reading “Godly Sorrow and Discerning Advice”
Adultery Victim AND …
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV While adultery victims are not less than victims of their cheaters, they are also more. They are FAITHFUL SPOUSES! SURVIVORS. Just because we have been cheated upon does not mean … Continue reading “Adultery Victim AND …”
Lysa TerKeurst Deals With Husband’s Infidelity
“My husband, life partner and father of my children, Art TerKeurst, has been repeatedly unfaithful to me with a woman he met online, bringing an end to our marriage of almost 25 years….I don’t share this to harm or embarrass him, but to help explain why I have decided to separate from him and pursue … Continue reading “Lysa TerKeurst Deals With Husband’s Infidelity”
The Tragedy of the Ending
The LORD said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way….” -I Samuel 16:1a, NIV The Tragedy of the Ending Just because we have accepted the end of the marriage due to the adultery does … Continue reading “The Tragedy of the Ending”
3 Things You Need To Know About Adultery
-3 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ADULTERY- 1. ADULTERY IS SOUL RAPE! The Bible is clear about the principle about how a married couple is no longer two individuals in a spiritual sense but are actually one (see Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, I Corinthians 6:15-18, etc). Following from this oneness principle of marriage, any … Continue reading “3 Things You Need To Know About Adultery”
On Preferring To Be “Imagining Things”
Discovering you spouse has been committing adultery is an incredibly traumatic experience. -You want to be wrong–even crazy is preferable to the real traumatic mess this actually is! -You want your world not to be upended and obliterated like it is. -In short, you want to wake up from this nightmare. This is grief and … Continue reading “On Preferring To Be “Imagining Things””
Why am I still so anxious and not “healed” already?
Why am I not “healed” already? -Faithful Spouse So, it has been a year since you discovered your spouse was cheating on you. You are wondering why you still get “triggered” and feel incredibly anxious. Speaking from personal experience and working with faithful spouses, this is a fairly usual response to infidelity discovery. Your world … Continue reading “Why am I still so anxious and not “healed” already?”
And then the sadness fades away…
I will exalt you, Lord, for you rescued me. You refused to let my enemies triumph over me. … You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy…. -Psalm 30:1, 11b, NLT Memories of one’s past life remain. They sometimes stalk one in the strangest of times and places. Such is … Continue reading “And then the sadness fades away…”
Listen and Pray
So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, NKJV Discovering a spouse has abandoned you and/or cheated upon you is utterly devastating. Sometimes “all” you can do is listen and … Continue reading “Listen and Pray”