“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.” -Isaiah 43:18, NIV Divorcing and–to a lesser degree–breaking up in general with a cheater is made more difficult during this age of electronic connection. We are all just more connected than we ever were through the blessing and curse known as social media. Within a … Continue reading “Divorcing a cheater and social media”
Category: Grief
And then it was just another day.
And then it was just another day. Yesterday marked the anniversary of my divorce decree. The strange thing is that I had completely forgotten about that fact until today. In fact, I only remembered because I got engaged to Mrs. DM the day following my year anniversary of the divorce. I saw a picture reminding … Continue reading “And then it was just another day.”
Comments On Your Healing
I can tell that you are still healing. -Faithful Spouse “Observer” Statements like this bother me. They are judgments. I am being judged when someone says this. Someone is looking at me, and giving me their assessment of my healing process–usually without invitation. Such judgments often times put me on the defensive. I feel like I have … Continue reading “Comments On Your Healing”
Settled in mind and heart
When I was in the heat of my marriage dissolution, I remember constantly being thrown off by the email responses I received from my (now) ex-wife. They would make me particularly upset when she continued to insist on pinning the fault for the marriage ending on me. Looking back now, I can see how out … Continue reading “Settled in mind and heart”
But they ARE crazy! For realz.
But a man who commits adultery has no sense…. -Proverbs 6:32a, NIV A common word of advice in the dating world is not to date a divorced individual who describes their ex as “crazy.”* Maybe you have heard this one? Such bad-mouthing of an ex is treated as a major red flag. The idea is that … Continue reading “But they ARE crazy! For realz.”
Be Careful!
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! -I Corinthians 10:12, NIV God has placed it upon my heart today to share a caution to faithful spouses. Be careful after making the infidelity discovery! You are emotionally and sexually vulnerable! It is so tempting to go to another man or woman to … Continue reading “Be Careful!”
Better Days Ahead!
The Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning…. -Job 42:12a, NASB So much is done within the Church to reinforce fears concerning divorce. Even a ministry I generally recommend for those divorcing a cheating spouse, DivorceCare, does this to some extent. They certainly do not encourage divorce–even when, I believe, that … Continue reading “Better Days Ahead!”
Encouraging Song
“Come As You Are” by Crowder is a song that I have recently (re?)discovered and grown to appreciate. The song was first released in 2014. It has rich, soothing lyrics. I hope as you click on the YouTube video above and watch the lyrics that you will find yourself encouraged and blessed by this beautiful … Continue reading “Encouraging Song”
Painful Absence
You have removed lover and friend far from me; My acquaintances are in darkness. -Psalm 88:18, NASB Holidays can be especially painful when you find yourself recently bereft of your spouse or long-time partner. Honestly, some of the most painful parts of my marriage ending was adjusting to no longer having my spouse with me … Continue reading “Painful Absence”
On Being Dismembered
I work in hospice and have the opportunity to watch the poignant beauty of marriages that have lasted well past fifty years. I say, “poignant” because I feel both awed by the sheer beauty of a couple still caring for each other after many decades together as well as sad by my own loss. Recently, … Continue reading “On Being Dismembered”