Category: Grief

DM Review: EFCA’s Revised Divorced Credentials Policy (Part III)

PART III: Reviewing the EFCA’s Policy Regarding Divorced Ministers ***This is the final installment of a review broken down into three parts. For more information and background, please read Part I and Part II.*** When the Evangelical Free Church of America (EFCA) revised their policy regarding divorced ministers in 2015, they did much good while … Continue reading “DM Review: EFCA’s Revised Divorced Credentials Policy (Part III)”

DM Review: EFCA’s Revised Divorced Credentials Policy (Part II)

PART II: Reviewing EFCA’s New Policy Regarding Divorced Ministers ***This is a continuation of series of posts regarding a change in divorce policy with this prominent evangelical denomination. To view the first post that comes with important background to the discussion click here.*** As stated in Part I, I am writing this review in order … Continue reading “DM Review: EFCA’s Revised Divorced Credentials Policy (Part II)”

DM Review: EFCA’s Revised Divorced Credentials Policy (Part I)

PART I: Reviewing the recent policy changes in the Evangelical Free Church of America (EFCA) regarding credentialing divorced individuals Link to the revised policy document (click here). Background: The EFCA is a denomination with Scandinavian origins started in the United States in the 1880s. It became the current denomination under the name the Evangelical Free … Continue reading “DM Review: EFCA’s Revised Divorced Credentials Policy (Part I)”

An Anti-Anniversary: Rising From The Ashes

DM in 2012 It’s so hard to believe today marks the three year anniversary of my marriage ending in divorce. I will always remember when I got the official word of this and how awful it felt. I did not feel like celebrating. It was the end of my six year long marriage. However, I … Continue reading “An Anti-Anniversary: Rising From The Ashes”

Truly Repentant Cheaters Stop Managing Their Image

Surrendering Their Image Control A key piece in the testimony given by W. Paul Young, the author of The Shack, was how he did not make an excuse or try to hide the fact of his infidelity. He stopped trying to pretend or control how people perceived him. And, certainly, he did not put a muzzle on … Continue reading “Truly Repentant Cheaters Stop Managing Their Image”

When will you believe it?

So the other disciples told him, “We have seen the Lord!” But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe.” – John 20:25, NIV It was August 2012. And the evidence … Continue reading “When will you believe it?”

The “Remind-Yourself-To-Eat” Phase

A picture of DM sometime during “The Phase” When people think about adultery and abandonment, they rarely understand just how traumatic these experiences are for the faithful spouse. I truly believe fewer Christians would respond with the Shared Responsibility Nonsense if they understood the consequences faithful spouses suffer due to their cheating spouses’ sins. Certainly, if … Continue reading “The “Remind-Yourself-To-Eat” Phase”

Others Judging Your Healing

“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”  -Matthew 7:1-2, KJV A common annoyance I encounter–and suspect other faithful spouses encounter as well–are Christians giving their unsolicited assessment of my state of healing. “You … Continue reading “Others Judging Your Healing”