And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. -Romans 8:28, NKJV Sometimes, Christians use this verse to short-circuit the grieving process. They try to silence someone in pain by quoting this at them. That is unhelpful. While I believe the Bible … Continue reading “Eyes of faith – Romans 8:28”
Category: Grief
“Stuck in Victimhood” Label
He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. -Micah 6:8, NIV Is it acting justly to shame infidelity victims for daring to voice the truth of being victimized? This is what can happen when … Continue reading ““Stuck in Victimhood” Label”
Monogamy is NOT the problem!
“…‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’…” -Matthew 19:5b, NKJV Monogamy–i.e. marriage–is NOT the problem! Even during the separation from my first wife, I understood this. I did not have a problem with the institution itself. My problem was … Continue reading “Monogamy is NOT the problem!”
Please, do NOT take your cheater’s marriage advice!
Why do we take advice from an unrepentant cheater? I know I am not the only one who did. At least, I did this for a time. I opened myself up to her criticism as if she was qualified to identify “the problems.” This likely comes from a desperation to “save the marriage.” A solution … Continue reading “Please, do NOT take your cheater’s marriage advice!”
Unnerving lies
For you are the children of your father the devil, and you love to do the evil things he does. … When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44a,c, NLT One thing I find unnerving is if you discover your partner is … Continue reading “Unnerving lies”
Wanting to rehash the marriage
Some cheaters will come back around and attempt to reconnect with their faithful partner after the divorce. They may want to rehash what happened in the marriage. This is just a recipe for abuse for the faithful partner. Do NOT take the bait! A repentant cheater would put action to their sorry. They wouldn’t try … Continue reading “Wanting to rehash the marriage”
Grief ambushes. It is what it does.
I am worn out from my groaning. All night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears. -Psalm 6:6, NIV Yesterday, grief surprised me. This wasn’t grief over my first marriage. It was grief over a lost mentor and true friend. He died in a car accident last year. I … Continue reading “Grief ambushes. It is what it does.”
But she said she would never…
She said she would would never cheat on me. No matter how difficult the marriage became, we were (supposedly) committed to each other. Cheating was not on the table. You see this is what makes infidelity so hard to believe. Cheating flies in the face of explicit promises made by the faithful spouse–husband or wife. … Continue reading “But she said she would never…”
A stranger
Yesterday, I was on a social media site. As they do, they post connection suggestions. One of those was a picture of my ex and her new husband. In that moment, I realized that she is just a stranger to me at this point. All connection has been severed and cauterized. Thankfully. Now in my … Continue reading “A stranger”
No outrunning or truly winning!
“Don’t be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds!” -Galatians 6:7-8a, MSG Cheater seems happy and prosperous while I struggle to make … Continue reading “No outrunning or truly winning!”