“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, the way a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were unwilling.” -Matthew 23:37, NASB Following adultery discovery, a major part of the traumatic experience is the loss of relationships … Continue reading “That reconciliation longing…”
Category: Reconciliation
WCF (1646): A Liberal Manifesto On Adultery and Divorce?
“Adultery or fornication, committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce, and after the divorce to marry another, as if the offending party were dead.” … Continue reading “WCF (1646): A Liberal Manifesto On Adultery and Divorce?”
Deal with their contempt!
Most importantly, I want to remind you that in the last days scoffers will come, mocking the truth and following their own desires. -2 Peter 3:3, NLT If a cheater is still displaying contempt for their spouse, stop wasting your time on “reconciliation” work. The cheater isn’t repentant. Cheaters speak contempt with fluidity. I find … Continue reading “Deal with their contempt!”
“Kid” gloves with female cheaters
“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV Pastors and other Christian counselors have a tendency to advocate for gentler confrontation with female cheaters. It is a kid gloves … Continue reading ““Kid” gloves with female cheaters”
Mailbag: Time limit on divorce?
Dear Divorce Minister, I discovered that my wife was unfaithful 5 years ago. I wanted to work thing out and told her “Maybe now, we can have the marriage that we always should have had.” She said she was sorry and wanted to make this work and our marriage did get better at least in … Continue reading “Mailbag: Time limit on divorce?”
Nancy Ortberg and WCC Elders’ “Efforts” to Reconcile
“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.” -Luke 17:3, NLT Nancy Ortberg and the Willow Creek Church Elders’ “Efforts” to “Reconcile” The scandal continues to brew at Willow Creek Church in Chicago over Rev. Bill Hybels conduct with women over the years. I have written about this controversy before (here, … Continue reading “Nancy Ortberg and WCC Elders’ “Efforts” to Reconcile”
Do it “FOR THE KIDS!”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children. Then, on the other hand, they will … Continue reading “Do it “FOR THE KIDS!””
Cheaters, Churches, and Christianity
I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you—something that even pagans don’t do. I am told that a man in your church is living in sin with his stepmother. You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man … Continue reading “Cheaters, Churches, and Christianity”
God forgave, BUT King David’s son still died!
Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does NOT wipe out all consequences for the … Continue reading “God forgave, BUT King David’s son still died!”
Mailbag: God took back unfaithful Israel; Are we obligated as well?
A wrote, I am in the middle of divorce proceedings and I have not seen signs of repentence, and even so, know that I would not be required to stay. I do have a question from my own heart. I was reading in Psalm 106:32-48 this morning and was struck at the unfaithfulness of Israel … Continue reading “Mailbag: God took back unfaithful Israel; Are we obligated as well?”