On my commute into work, I listen to a local radio station that dispenses relationship advice. This segment on KS95 is called “Love ’em or List ’em.” Today’s situation involved cheating and the advice given was mostly awful. A quick recap of the situation: Angela is the caller. She just got engaged but is sick … Continue reading “Sick Secrets…”
Category: Reconciliation
Can you live with the lies?
All day long you plot destruction. Your tongue cuts like a sharp razor; you’re an expert at telling lies. You love evil more than good and lies more than truth. -Psalm 52:2-3, NLT I am a firm believer when it comes to full disclosure to the faithful spouse regarding what the cheater did. Darkness is only … Continue reading “Can you live with the lies?”
Notice how Christians expect faithful spouses to pursue but cheaters not?!
Plead with your mother, plead: for she is not my wife, neither am I her husband: let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts…. -Hosea 2:2, KJV Have you ever noticed how quick Christians are to lay the burden of marriage restoration upon the adultery … Continue reading “Notice how Christians expect faithful spouses to pursue but cheaters not?!”
Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!
Thus saith the LORD, Where is the bill of your mother’s divorcement, whom I have put away? or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities have ye sold yourselves, and for your transgressions is your mother put away. -Isaiah 50:1, KJV A cheater is not … Continue reading “Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!”
If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!
And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” -Genesis 3:11-12, NIV Just because a cheater goes to couple’s therapy … Continue reading “If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!”
DM’s first video blogging…vlogging episode
To get out the message of Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously to more people, I have started to put my thoughts down in video form. The following YouTube video is just the first teaser of what is to come in the future. Thanks to a regular reader, he has alerted me to the reality that some people … Continue reading “DM’s first video blogging…vlogging episode”
What was the most confusing thing about the experience?
What was the most confusing part of the experience? So much is confusing and difficult when discovering a spouse has been unfaithful. So called “Christian” advice to forgive and forget in an effort to “save” the marriage is a big piece that adds to the confusion of the day. Another candidate for most confusing is the … Continue reading “What was the most confusing thing about the experience?”
A Most Reasonable Expectation
“…let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….” -Hosea 2:2b, KJV Reasonable Expectation: A faithful spouse should expect a cheating spouse–whether emotional and/or physical–will demonstrate that the affair is completely over and steps have been taken to fix the character flaw in the cheater that … Continue reading “A Most Reasonable Expectation”
Not there to solve the marriage problems!
Attending marriage counseling with a cheater on the way out of the marriage is a very confusing experience. At least in my experience–I know there are some exceptions to this–marriage counselors and pastors are often not equipped to identify tell-tale cheating and exiting behavior then use that information to help protect the faithful partner. The … Continue reading “Not there to solve the marriage problems!”
Pastoral Resource: Addressing Adulterous Situations
Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may … Continue reading “Pastoral Resource: Addressing Adulterous Situations”