“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV Recently, an article was published online by The Washingtonian about The Sovereign Grace Ministries (SGM) scandals that include stories of child molestation and alleged cover-ups by pastors. This ministry family of churches included such evangelical-land … Continue reading “SGM Scandals and What Ought To Go Without Saying…”
Category: Reconciliation
Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? -I John 4:20, NKJV What bothers–and astounds–me is how typical infidelity or adultery is treated as a symptom or side-issue … Continue reading “Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?”
The Broken Vase Parable
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been … Continue reading “The Broken Vase Parable”
When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…
Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. -Hebrews 10:26, NLT The longer someone has led a double-life of cheating, the less likely they will be able to repent and change. What sacrifice remains to cover that … Continue reading “When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…”
Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality
There is more hope for fools than for people who think they are wise. –Proverbs 26:12, NLT They traded the truth about God for a lie…. –Romans 1:25a, NLT Cheaters can come across as so confident in their lies. This confidence has the power to make even the most stalwart faithful spouse second-guess their instincts, hard evidence, … Continue reading “Refuse To Get Sucked Into Their Warped Reality”
Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC) And The Church
They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that! – 2 Timothy 3:5, NLT The Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC) is a term used on the Chump Lady blog, which is a website devoted to supporting faithful spouses or “chumps.” On her website, … Continue reading “Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC) And The Church”
Revisited: Their Dust, Shake It Off!
And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them. -Luke 9:5, KJV Jesus gave us a ministry of reconciliation (see 2 Corinthians 5:18), yet Jesus told His Disciples to move on if this ministry was rejected. Cheaters reject godly reconciliation … Continue reading “Revisited: Their Dust, Shake It Off!”
Even Our Most-Forgiving God Required Repentance
“If you want to come back, O Israel, you must really come back to me. You must get rid of your stinking sin paraphernalia and not wander away from me anymore.” -Jeremiah 4:1 (from 1-2 block), THE MESSAGE This verse comes on the heals of the chapter where God declares His divorce of Israel over … Continue reading “Even Our Most-Forgiving God Required Repentance”
The Oblivious Ones
So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. – Luke 17:3, NIV If you have survived discovering infidelity and/or gone through divorce, you will inevitably encounter “well-meaning” but oblivious Christians. They may even be related to you by blood. These are the sort of … Continue reading “The Oblivious Ones”
Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015
Top Five DM Blog Posts For 2015 This past year has been a busy year on Divorce Minister. It marks the first full calendar year that Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has exited. Below is a countdown of my top five visited stories for 2015 (only counting posts written this year). These posts received hundreds … Continue reading “Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015”