Yesterday, a friend of mine sent me a link from a blogger, Leanne, who shared her story about confessing infidelity to her husband. Her post is entitled “Karma?” (click on title to read her full post). The gist of the story is Leanne cheated on her husband a couple years prior and lied about it … Continue reading “An Unfaithful Spouse’s Perspective”
Category: Reconciliation
Mailbag: Conquering Anger
The Lord is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy. – Psalm 145:8, KJV Hi DM. I still have a lot of anger toward my mother-in-law for many of the same reasons you had for your father-in-law. She has enabled my stbx’s sin so much that even my children … Continue reading “Mailbag: Conquering Anger”
Recognizing a Fake Apology
Then Saul admitted to Samuel, “Yes, I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the Lord’s command, for I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded. But now, please forgive my sin and come back with me so that I may worship the Lord.” -I Samuel 15:24-25, NLT (e.g. false apology) … Continue reading “Recognizing a Fake Apology”
Mailbag: Keep Praying Or Let Him Go?
Confused wrote, In my case, no papers have been filed but we’re on our 3rd separation and this time my husband says that he knows 100% he wants a divorce. It’s clear that he’s had emotional affairs or at the very least has been having inappropriate friendships with other women. I’ve only known about these … Continue reading “Mailbag: Keep Praying Or Let Him Go?”
“Can we meet up to discuss what went wrong in our marriage?”
More than a year after the divorce and after I had married Mrs. DM, I was contacted by my ex-wife out of the blue. She was contacting me to ostensibly gain closure and understand why our marriage ended. My ex-wife wanted to meet up to rehash our relationship in person. Her inquest was essentially: Can … Continue reading ““Can we meet up to discuss what went wrong in our marriage?””
James MacDonald and Adultery Teachings
Almost There BUT… Yesterday, James MacDonald shared some teachings on adultery and divorce in a broadcast entitled: “Putting Your Heart in Your Marriage – C.” It was part of his ministry “Walk in the Word.” He is going through the Ten Commandments and hit the one that prohibits adultery (see Exodus 20:14). Here’s the link … Continue reading “James MacDonald and Adultery Teachings”
Personal Integrity
When Peter saw him [John], he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” – John 21:21-22, NIV It is understandable. You have been soul raped and your world has been turned upside down by your partner’s selfish, … Continue reading “Personal Integrity”
Responding to Foolish Bible Applications
Be sure to answer the foolish arguments of fools, or they will become wise in their own estimation. -Proverbs 26:5, NLT Often times, I encounter frequent flyers as far as passages used to abuse faithful spouses. Well-meaning or just self-righteous religious people spout off some verse or passage thinking they are dispensing much needed … Continue reading “Responding to Foolish Bible Applications”
Mailbag: DM, Your Take On My Past Situation With My Cheating (Now) Ex-Wife
Micheal wrote, Hi Rev. David. At my one and only counseling session with my ex-wife, after I discovered her affair, she openly declared that she fully intended to go away for the weekend with her affair partner and that she wasn’t done with her cheating. She showed no remorse, contrition and she was down right … Continue reading “Mailbag: DM, Your Take On My Past Situation With My Cheating (Now) Ex-Wife”
Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay
Yesterday, I had an interesting exchange with another pastor who raised a concern. He was wondering if my blogging is shaming for faithful spouses who choose to stay and restore their marriage with a cheater. I am writing today to address that concern. To be crystal clear: My goal is NOT to shame faithful spouses who … Continue reading “Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay”