Confused wrote, In my case, no papers have been filed but we’re on our 3rd separation and this time my husband says that he knows 100% he wants a divorce. It’s clear that he’s had emotional affairs or at the very least has been having inappropriate friendships with other women. I’ve only known about these … Continue reading “Mailbag: Keep Praying Or Let Him Go?”
Category: Reconciliation
“Can we meet up to discuss what went wrong in our marriage?”
More than a year after the divorce and after I had married Mrs. DM, I was contacted by my ex-wife out of the blue. She was contacting me to ostensibly gain closure and understand why our marriage ended. My ex-wife wanted to meet up to rehash our relationship in person. Her inquest was essentially: Can … Continue reading ““Can we meet up to discuss what went wrong in our marriage?””
James MacDonald and Adultery Teachings
Almost There BUT… Yesterday, James MacDonald shared some teachings on adultery and divorce in a broadcast entitled: “Putting Your Heart in Your Marriage – C.” It was part of his ministry “Walk in the Word.” He is going through the Ten Commandments and hit the one that prohibits adultery (see Exodus 20:14). Here’s the link … Continue reading “James MacDonald and Adultery Teachings”
Personal Integrity
When Peter saw him [John], he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” – John 21:21-22, NIV It is understandable. You have been soul raped and your world has been turned upside down by your partner’s selfish, … Continue reading “Personal Integrity”
Responding to Foolish Bible Applications
Be sure to answer the foolish arguments of fools, or they will become wise in their own estimation. -Proverbs 26:5, NLT Often times, I encounter frequent flyers as far as passages used to abuse faithful spouses. Well-meaning or just self-righteous religious people spout off some verse or passage thinking they are dispensing much needed … Continue reading “Responding to Foolish Bible Applications”
Mailbag: DM, Your Take On My Past Situation With My Cheating (Now) Ex-Wife
Micheal wrote, Hi Rev. David. At my one and only counseling session with my ex-wife, after I discovered her affair, she openly declared that she fully intended to go away for the weekend with her affair partner and that she wasn’t done with her cheating. She showed no remorse, contrition and she was down right … Continue reading “Mailbag: DM, Your Take On My Past Situation With My Cheating (Now) Ex-Wife”
Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay
Yesterday, I had an interesting exchange with another pastor who raised a concern. He was wondering if my blogging is shaming for faithful spouses who choose to stay and restore their marriage with a cheater. I am writing today to address that concern. To be crystal clear: My goal is NOT to shame faithful spouses who … Continue reading “Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay”
Cheater-Speak: Cannot forgive oneself but cannot stop cheating either
Michael wrote, Hi Rev David. My ex-wife said she didn’t know how to forgive herself but at the same time would not stop her adultery. What is your take on this? Dear Michael, Two possible options come to mind as to what is happening here with your ex-wife: 1) She is lying for image or … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: Cannot forgive oneself but cannot stop cheating either”
Problem With “I Never Recommend Divorce” Stance
“I never recommend divorce, but I will say, I’ll go as far as separation.” – Dr. David Clarke in 7/22/15 interview on Focus on the Family® While I generally agree with Dr. Clarke’s approach to dealing with infidelity, I strongly disagree with him on this point.* Sometimes I will recommend divorce if it means protecting a spouse … Continue reading “Problem With “I Never Recommend Divorce” Stance”
“I’m not defined by my past.”
Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit … Continue reading ““I’m not defined by my past.””