If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. -I John 1:9, NIV Instead of confessing, many of our Cheaters will continue to blame us for our marriages’ demise until they die. They do not see their infidelity as relevant to the divorce. … Continue reading “Still blaming”
Category: Sin
Marriage was chosen freely.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Cheaters freely chose to marry their spouses. This free choice came with the explicit commitment to exclusiveness. That is the usual marriage vow of “forsaking all others.” Now, if … Continue reading “Marriage was chosen freely.”
No “Accidental Muffins”
“There are no ‘accidental muffins.’” I made this statement the other night about affairs. It was in reference to a video on the internet about cheating. The original poster pointed out all the steps needed to cheat and likened it to baking something. A cheater might try to pass their affair off as an accident. … Continue reading “No “Accidental Muffins””
Cheater Backhanded “Admissions”
Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others. -Proverbs 12:15, NLT Sometimes the only thing a cheater might admit to doing wrong is a backhanded admission. What do I mean by “backhanded admission?” “I apologize for not speaking up sooner to tell you how you aren’t meeting my ‘needs.’” “My … Continue reading “Cheater Backhanded “Admissions””
Fruit of a wicked heart
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NLT Fruit of a Wicket Heart Long before the affair happens, it begins in the heart of the Cheater. This is what … Continue reading “Fruit of a wicked heart”
Never divorce stance as idolatry
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. But that treacherous sister Judah had no fear, and now she, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution. -Jeremiah 3:8, NLT Is the “Never Divorce” stance on marriage really just plain, old idolatry? Now, before I answer this, I want to be … Continue reading “Never divorce stance as idolatry”
Is God doing forgiveness wrong, then?!
Seek the Lord while He may be found, Call upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, And the unrighteous man his thoughts; Let him return to the Lord, And He will have mercy on him; And to our God, For He will abundantly pardon. -Isaiah 55:6-7, NKJV Is God doing this forgiveness thing wrong here? … Continue reading “Is God doing forgiveness wrong, then?!”
Adultery is truly evil!
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Adultery is truly evil!”
Blinding Arrogance and Contempt
21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … Continue reading “Blinding Arrogance and Contempt”
First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong
No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try to “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … Continue reading “First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong”