Refusing to see victims!

2 “How long will you defend the unjust     and show partiality to the wicked? 3 Defend the weak and the fatherless;     uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed. 4 Rescue the weak and the needy;     deliver them from the hand of the wicked.” -Psalm 82:2-4, NIV How can justice be done if we refuse to acknowledge the existence … Continue reading “Refusing to see victims!”

Too much and too little patience

You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man from your fellowship. -I  Corinthians 5:2, NLT In my experience, Christians often have too much patience for Cheaters and too little for their victims–i.e. faithful spouses. Cheaters are given chance after chance to repent. … Continue reading “Too much and too little patience”

Hosea’s special life calling

When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.”  – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading “Hosea’s special life calling”

A resurrection, NOT a remodel!

43 Then Jesus shouted, “Lazarus, come out!” 44 And the dead man came out, his hands and feet bound in graveclothes, his face wrapped in a headcloth. Jesus told them, “Unwrap him and let him go!” John 11:43-44, NLT Marital infidelity kills marriages. It does this by striking the heart of this covenant relationship–namely, fidelity. Without such fidelity, trust is … Continue reading “A resurrection, NOT a remodel!”

“But for the grace of God, there go I, too!” Hogwash

“I won’t judge. But by the grace of God, there go I, too!” says Cheater apologist. This sounds so good and high minded. The person saying such things comes across as a super Christian. But this statement really just reveals ignorance on their part… Someone saying this is assuming much about cheating. They are treating … Continue reading ““But for the grace of God, there go I, too!” Hogwash”

“I’m trapped!” Immaturity

Even a child is known by his deeds, Whether what he does is pure and right. -Proverbs 20:11, NKJV “I’m trapped!” exclaims Cheater. This mentality frustrates me. I am mostly frustrated thinking about how pastors or counselors might take this bait from the Cheater. They fail to call the Cheater to account. Unless someone held a gun to … Continue reading ““I’m trapped!” Immaturity”

Cheater waterworks

And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, With weeping and crying; So He does not regard the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. -Malachi 2:13, NKJV Cheaters might cry over their infidelity. They might exhibit tears like these Cheaters in Malachi 2:13. BUT God is … Continue reading “Cheater waterworks”

What if the infidelity predated the marriage?

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4, NKJV What if you find out your spouse cheated on you while you were dating or engaged but kept it a secret? This is damaging on multiple levels: First, you have the cheating. Discovering cheating is a real gut punch. … Continue reading “What if the infidelity predated the marriage?”