“I’m so thankful that my wife puts up with me.” -Old-School Evangelical huband This statement may be true. Plus, in some ways, it is a harmless statement of gratitude for a wife who is willing to accept her husband–minor flaws and all. That is good. However, I have heard it stated by individuals that go … Continue reading ““I am so thankful my wife puts up with me.””
Category: Sin
Mindset Change: Default to Divorce Biblically
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. – Jeremiah 3:8, KJV Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not … Continue reading “Mindset Change: Default to Divorce Biblically”
What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor today?
“Plead with your mother, plead— for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband— that she put away her whoring from her face, and her adultery from between her breasts, … For their mother has played the whore; she who conceived them has acted shamefully.” -Hosea 2:2, 5a, NRSV Join me in … Continue reading “What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor today?”
Asking Faithful Spouse About “Their Part”
The fathers shall not be put to death for the children, neither shall the children be put to death for the fathers: every man shall be put to death for his own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, KJV “What did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” -Inquiring Christian I do not like this sort … Continue reading “Asking Faithful Spouse About “Their Part””
If he can’t get the pastor to cheat…
…Satan can target his spouse to eliminate another shepherd. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour… – I Peter 5:8, KJV But if you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another. – Galatians 5:15, NLT … Continue reading “If he can’t get the pastor to cheat…”
Tell The Congregation!
Do not listen to an accusation against an elder unless it is confirmed by two or three witnesses. Those who sin should be reprimanded in front of the whole church; this will serve as a strong warning to others. -1 Timonthy 5:19-20, NLT I am aware that these verses are sometimes abused in churches to … Continue reading “Tell The Congregation!”
Making Repentance The Priority
Peter’s words pierced their hearts, and they said to him and to the other apostles, “Brothers, what should we do?” Peter replied, “Each of you must repent of your sins and turn to God, and be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. Then you will receive the gift … Continue reading “Making Repentance The Priority”
Denial is not the same thing as forgiveness.
“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light. It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Denial is not the same thing as forgiveness.”
Truly Repentant Cheaters Stop Managing Their Image
Surrendering Their Image Control A key piece in the testimony given by W. Paul Young, the author of The Shack, was how he did not make an excuse or try to hide the fact of his infidelity. He stopped trying to pretend or control how people perceived him. And, certainly, he did not put a muzzle on … Continue reading “Truly Repentant Cheaters Stop Managing Their Image”
“Date Your Spouse” Advice
“Date your wife. Take her out. Get her flowers. Maybe it will reignite something?” – Christian leader to faithful husband I find this advice obnoxious. Sadly, it seems ubiquitous in evangelical-land as a way to “affair proof” a marriage. Such is dangerous and delusional thinking. The state of the marriage relationship is not what causes adultery. … Continue reading ““Date Your Spouse” Advice”