When Tragedy Strikes A Pastor…

How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “When Tragedy Strikes A Pastor…”

The “Remind-Yourself-To-Eat” Phase

A picture of DM sometime during “The Phase” When people think about adultery and abandonment, they rarely understand just how traumatic these experiences are for the faithful spouse. I truly believe fewer Christians would respond with the Shared Responsibility Nonsense if they understood the consequences faithful spouses suffer due to their cheating spouses’ sins. Certainly, if … Continue reading “The “Remind-Yourself-To-Eat” Phase”

Years of Infidelity Makes Godly Marriage Restoration Doubtful

The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT Recently, I was reading a book about apologies and forgiveness. It is a book by a well-known, evangelical Christian author. But I will neither name the author(s) or the book for the purpose of today’s post. Those details … Continue reading “Years of Infidelity Makes Godly Marriage Restoration Doubtful”

Embezzler Analogy Test

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. – James 1:13-14, NIV Committing adultery is no more indicative of prior marriage problems than embezzling … Continue reading “Embezzler Analogy Test”

Becoming A Better Husband (Or Wife)

“Son of man, give your people this message: The righteous behavior of righteous people will not save them if they turn to sin, nor will the wicked behavior of wicked people destroy them if they repent and turn from their sins. When I tell righteous people that they will live, but then they sin, expecting their … Continue reading “Becoming A Better Husband (Or Wife)”

Twisted Theology–“This is God disciplining you!”

“My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the Lord loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He receives.” … Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in … Continue reading “Twisted Theology–“This is God disciplining you!””

Stubborn Pride Ends Relationships Everyday!

“It’s easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled.” – Mark Twain There is more hope for fools than for people who think they are wise. -Proverbs 26:12, NLT My ex-wife fooled a lot of people. Present company included. I am sure I am not alone in that experience–i.e. in … Continue reading “Stubborn Pride Ends Relationships Everyday!”

Others Judging Your Healing

“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”  -Matthew 7:1-2, KJV A common annoyance I encounter–and suspect other faithful spouses encounter as well–are Christians giving their unsolicited assessment of my state of healing. “You … Continue reading “Others Judging Your Healing”