Recognizing a Fake Apology

Then Saul admitted to Samuel, “Yes, I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the Lord’s command, for I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded. But now, please forgive my sin and come back with me so that I may worship the Lord.” -I Samuel 15:24-25, NLT (e.g. false apology) … Continue reading “Recognizing a Fake Apology”

We don’t need that sort of “care!”

If a pastor or Christian leader is unprepared to confront an adulterous spouse, they ought to have the decency to not bother picking at what they think is wrong in the faithful spouse. Sin inquests into suffering faithful spouses are anything but loving. Such are cold approaches to an excruciating experience. They offer judgment and condemnation when … Continue reading “We don’t need that sort of “care!””

Why Do Only Cheaters Get “The Benefit Of The Doubt?”

Do not listen to an accusation against an elder unless it is confirmed by two or three witnesses. Those who sin should be reprimanded in front of the whole church; this will serve as a strong warning to others. – I Timothy 5:19-20, NLT Why do only adulterous spouses get the benefit of the doubt … Continue reading “Why Do Only Cheaters Get “The Benefit Of The Doubt?””

The Wicked Prosper

“Why do the wicked prosper,     growing old and powerful? They live to see their children grow up and settle down,     and they enjoy their grandchildren. Their homes are safe from every fear,     and God does not punish them.” -Job 21:7-9, NLT This lament of Job is comforting. It is comforting in as it exists in … Continue reading “The Wicked Prosper”

Presumption of Causation With Divorce

How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s … Continue reading “Presumption of Causation With Divorce”

Not Relevant To Congregation?!

“Thou shalt not commit adultery.” –God in Exodus 20:14, KJV According to a website drawing its numbers from the Associated Press plus Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 41% of marriages have minimally one spouse who admits to emotional and/or physical infidelity. Infidelity is a problem. And it is not a minor one. Scripture is clear that … Continue reading “Not Relevant To Congregation?!”

Cheater-speak: “We never …”

We never… …talk about our finances. Answer: “Then what was that three hour session we had planning how to do a short-sale of our place?” …have sex. Answer: “Then what was that we were doing last Sunday afternoon together?” …do anything fun. Answer: “Then why were you smiling last Saturday clearly enjoying our trip together to the City?” … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “We never …””

Movie “Divorce Corp.” Reflections

And in hell he lift up his eyes, being in torments, and seeth Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom.  And he cried and said, “Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in … Continue reading “Movie “Divorce Corp.” Reflections”

Post-Moral Failure: Commentary On Tullian Tchividjian Situation

Controversy still surrounds Tullian Tchividjian, Rev. Billy Graham’s grandson, months after his admission of committing marital unfaithfulness and being removed from pastoring the famed Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church. I first reported on this situation in my post entitled: “Comfort Affairs and Pastor Tullian Tchvidjian’s Tragic Fall.” Subsequently, Tullian has been defrocked–i.e stripped of his ordination … Continue reading “Post-Moral Failure: Commentary On Tullian Tchividjian Situation”

Mailbag: Keep Praying Or Let Him Go?

Confused wrote, In my case, no papers have been filed but we’re on our 3rd separation and this time my husband says that he knows 100% he wants a divorce. It’s clear that he’s had emotional affairs or at the very least has been having inappropriate friendships with other women. I’ve only known about these … Continue reading “Mailbag: Keep Praying Or Let Him Go?”