And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. – John 3:19, KJV In the early stages of discovery, I can remember being downright obsessive in trying to find out the facts. It was all-consuming for a good deal of … Continue reading “When you know enough…”
Category: Sin
When Kids Are Involved…
Take heed to yourselves, that your heart be not deceived, and ye turn aside, and serve other gods, and worship them; And then the Lord‘s wrath be kindled against you…. And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, … Continue reading “When Kids Are Involved…”
Unmoored Meanings
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! – Isaiah 5:20, KJV Private Definitions of Cheaters I can remember my undergraduate philosophy professor telling us on multiple occasions how to deal with difficult argument situations. … Continue reading “Unmoored Meanings”
No Such Thing As “A Break” in Marriage
“I just needed a break.” I wonder how many who come here experienced their cheater instituting “a break” from their marriage. My (now) ex-wife took her own “break.” She went on a trip to Europe alone and removed her wedding ring on this trip. I have the pictures to prove it. When I pointed this out … Continue reading “No Such Thing As “A Break” in Marriage”
Pastors, All sins are not equal.
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. – Leviticus 20:10, KJV Not all sins in a marriage are acceptable to God as worthy of ending a marriage (e.g. Mt 5:32). Not all … Continue reading “Pastors, All sins are not equal.”
Not a Private Affair
And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy … Continue reading “Not a Private Affair”
Forsaking all others
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. – Genesis 2:24, KJV In my fear of being labelled “controlling,” I had a difficult time while my marriage was imploding recognizing healthy jealousy and boundaries. And I suspect I am not alone … Continue reading “Forsaking all others”
Mate Date Nonsense
Excuses might be found for a thief who steals because he is starving. But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole, even if he has to sell everything in his house. -Proverbs 6:30-31, NLT Dating your spouse. It is not that I am against having one-on-one romantic evenings or … Continue reading “Mate Date Nonsense”
That Liberal Manefesto On Adultery and Divorce, aka WCF 1646
Adultery or fornication, committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce, and after the divorce to marry another, as if the offending party were dead. … Continue reading “That Liberal Manefesto On Adultery and Divorce, aka WCF 1646”
Mailbag: My husband is a cheating pastor, and I am at a loss.
twitching wrote, My husband is a senior pastor in a Presbyterian (PCUSA) church. He has been having an affair for at least 2 years with a woman in our former church, about 10 hours by car away. I told 2 elders and they have done nothing but keep his secret. Meanwhile, I left and am … Continue reading “Mailbag: My husband is a cheating pastor, and I am at a loss.”