The Awful Truth

Wounds from a friend can be trusted,     but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV Knowing the truth is freeing. But this is often denied faithful spouses as their world is caved in by the terrors of trickling truth and horrors of betrayals both large and small. I can still vividly remember feeling the shock. … Continue reading “The Awful Truth”

Mailbag: Is withholding sex from your spouse sexual immorality?

In a comment on the blog, OnlyEleven wrote, Is withholding sex from your spouse sexual immorality and therefore grounds for divorce? 3 of the 4 years of marriage have been sexless…she had sex long enough to get pg and have a much wanted baby, and has refused sex ever since. She refuses to even share … Continue reading “Mailbag: Is withholding sex from your spouse sexual immorality?”

Godly Sorrow And Advice

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. – 2 Cor. 7:10, NIV When you see the fruit of advice destroying someone or yourself, you are seeing something bringing death as this verse tells us. This is not from God. God is not one who came … Continue reading “Godly Sorrow And Advice”

“It Takes Two To Tango”

“It Takes Two To Tango” I wonder how many here heard this faux wisdom following the discovery of adultery and subsequent divorce. It really is just another iteration of “The Shared Responsibility Lie.” And it comes across as “wise” while being incredible hurtful to someone who has just survived adultery (aka soul rape). It is hurtful for … Continue reading ““It Takes Two To Tango””

Pre-Pigsty Prodigal or Post-Pigsty Prodigal…Continued

More Lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” My post yesterday drew lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” found in Luke 15:11-32 regarding discerning whether or not one’s adulterous spouse is exhibiting the behavior exhibited by the prodigal son post-pigsty (click here to view post). This post is a continuation of that … Continue reading “Pre-Pigsty Prodigal or Post-Pigsty Prodigal…Continued”

Pre-Pigsty Prodigal OR Post-Pigsty Prodigal?

Lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” In Luke 15:11-32, we have the famous parable about the prodigal son. It is a story with two sons and a father who welcomes the younger son back after he wasted his inheritance on “wild living” (Luke 15:13b, NIV). This story lives in our pop culture when … Continue reading “Pre-Pigsty Prodigal OR Post-Pigsty Prodigal?”

Top Evangelical Misconceptions About Adultery And Divorce

What Are Top Evangelical Misconceptions About Adultery And Divorce? When I shared my blog with a Catholic professional peer of mine, this was his question for me. He named the biggest one as he saw it for Catholic laity. He explained many think divorce is what cuts people off from good-standing in the Catholic Church. … Continue reading “Top Evangelical Misconceptions About Adultery And Divorce”

Of Flames And Floods

“When you go through deep waters,     I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty,     you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression,     you will not be burned up;     the flames will not consume you. For I am the Lord, your God,     the Holy One of Israel, your … Continue reading “Of Flames And Floods”

Re: “The Wrong Thing That Was Right”

Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. – Romans 1:24-25, ESV (emphasis mine) Chump Lady sent … Continue reading “Re: “The Wrong Thing That Was Right””