“If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you withhold forgiveness from any, it is withheld.” -Jesus to the Disciples, John 20:23, ESV Is Adultery the Unpardonable Sin? Short answer: No. Adultery is pardonable. But an awful sin has happened that needs pardoning.* What does obtaining a pardon mean? Pardon in … Continue reading “Is Adultery the Unpardonable Sin?”
Category: Sin
“The Exit Affair” Nonsense
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. – Hebrews 13:4, ESV When you are drowning, you often go to desperate measures to stay afloat. I am a knowledge junkie. So, I turned to reading to improve myself as … Continue reading ““The Exit Affair” Nonsense”
Projection much?!
“Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.” -Mt 10:16, ESV I remember early in the dissolution of my first marriage feeling confused after I had a conversation with my (now) ex-wife. As I remember this conversation, she had accused me … Continue reading “Projection much?!”
“There’s Always Two Sides To A Story”
The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him. -Proverbs 18:17, ESV An evildoer listens to wicked lips, and a liar gives ear to a mischievous tongue. -Proverbs 17:4, ESV “There’s always two sides to a story.” I wonder how many who come here have heard that statement … Continue reading ““There’s Always Two Sides To A Story””
Hypocrisy Is An Old Problem
You who say that one must not commit adultery, do you commit adultery?…You who boast in the law dishonor God by breaking the law. For, as it is written, “The name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.” – Romans 2:22a, 23-24, ESV My relationship with Jesus and reliance on the Bible saved … Continue reading “Hypocrisy Is An Old Problem”
Please, Faithful Spouses, Find A Christian Advisor With A Backbone!
These last few days I have heard/read stories about Christian counselors who have failed to directly addressed adultery. They have avoided the awkward conversation insisting upon full disclosure or full commitment to rebuilding the marriage from the adulterous spouse. And these individuals have cited various reasons for this. This angers me! I know how it … Continue reading “Please, Faithful Spouses, Find A Christian Advisor With A Backbone!”
So What If They Do Not Come Back?
Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” When the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions. -Mt 19:21-22, ESV Jesus was not afraid to give people … Continue reading “So What If They Do Not Come Back?”
I am NOT FOR the marriage
When Joshua was by Jericho, he lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, a man was standing before him with his drawn sword in his hand. And Joshua went to him and said to him, “Are you for us, or for our adversaries?” And he said, “No; but I am the commander of the … Continue reading “I am NOT FOR the marriage”
Football, Film, And Responsibility
DM as #60 (2004) The day I donned a football helmet and put on shoulder pads are now over a decade ago. In many ways, it feels like a lifetime ago. However, those years playing football (13 years) taught me some very important lessons. One of those lessons had to deal with personal responsibility. In … Continue reading “Football, Film, And Responsibility”
Too Much Advice!
Counsel Bombardment An aspect of my journey towards healing following adultery discovery and divorce was dealing with all the counsel I received. If anything, I was far too open to people’s advice in the early stages of my marriages disintegration. Part of this was a reflection of my passivity where I was not owning my … Continue reading “Too Much Advice!”