In the effort to avoid the fearful acknowledgement of vulnerability, I suspect many ascribe to the Shared Responsibility Lie. They foolishly believe it is possible to drive someone to commit adultery. It is important to maintain this belief because without it entrenched, then one is faced with the frightening reality that every marriage is … Continue reading “Choices Were Made!”
Category: Sin
Advice To Other Pastors–Don’t Muddy the Water!
The one who sins is the one who will die. The child will not share the guilt of the parent, nor will the parent share the guilt of the child. The righteousness of the righteous will be credited to them, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against them. -Ezekiel 18:20, NIV So … Continue reading “Advice To Other Pastors–Don’t Muddy the Water!”
We can still be friends, right? Wrong.
“You are my friends if you do what I command.” -Jesus speaking in John 15:14, NIV Friendship is a selective relationship. It is a relationship built on trust and mutual admiration. Not everyone I know is my friend. They need to pass the cut. As we read from this quoted Scripture, Jesus did not call … Continue reading “We can still be friends, right? Wrong.”
Dear Divorce Minister, What is the morally and spiritually right way to handle this?
Dear Divorce Minister, I was wondering if you could do a post about what is the morally and spiritually right thing to do in regard to telling people why the marriage broke down. My ex-husband was a pastor and we were well known in the area where I still live. He had an … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, What is the morally and spiritually right way to handle this?”
PSA: Not Your Mess To Fix
Dear faithful spouse, It is not your job to fix the marriage mess caused by your adulterous spouse’s infidelity. You did not create this mess. And you are not even a little responsible for his/her sin. It flowed out of his/her heart alone as Scripture teaches (see post here). The adultery and subsequent consequences (like … Continue reading “PSA: Not Your Mess To Fix”
The Adultery Partner
At the window of my house I looked down through the lattice. I saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth who had no sense. -Proverbs 7:6-7, NIV Such are the words that describe the Other Man (OM) who is pulled into committing adultery with a brazen adulteress in this chapter … Continue reading “The Adultery Partner”
“Can’t I have friends?!”`
“Can’t I have friends?!” says the cheater with exasperation. This is what is known in philosophy as the “Loaded Question Fallacy.” It is an error in reasoning where you cannot answer such questions without ending up in a bad place. Such is like the classical “Loaded Question” example of “When will you stop beating your … Continue reading ““Can’t I have friends?!”`”
My God Is Passionate!
In my distress I called upon the Lord; to my God I cried for help. From his temple he heard my voice, and my cry to him reached his ears. Then the earth reeled and rocked; the foundations also of the mountains trembled and quaked, because he was angry. -Psalm 18:6-7, ESV I write this … Continue reading “My God Is Passionate!”
God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce!
“I have seen your abominations, your adulteries and neighings, your lewd whorings, on the hills in the field. Woe to you, O Jerusalem! How long will it be before you are made clean?” -Jeremiah 13:27, ESV God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce. This is my response to Christian counselors and pastors who trot … Continue reading “God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce!”
Worst Piece of Advice Given
“Contend with your mother, contend, For she is not my wife, and I am not her husband; And let her put away her harlotry from her face And her adultery from between her breasts…“ -Hosea 2:2, NASB While I do not mind the end result–the merciful divorce paving the way to my marriage to Mrs. DM–I am … Continue reading “Worst Piece of Advice Given”