Category: Theology of divorce

Abandonment: When one spouse is “done”

But the people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires.” -Jeremiah 18:12, NLT Letting go of a spouse is hard. This is true, in my experience, even if that spouse is a cheater. We married them, and it is a bitter pill … Continue reading “Abandonment: When one spouse is “done””

How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.

How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.”

Biblical permission to divorce includes permission to remarry!

 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “Biblical permission to divorce includes permission to remarry!”

Pastor to DM: What DO I say to an adultery victim?

“And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones who is my disciple, truly I tell you, that person will certainly not lose their reward.” -Matthew 10:42, NIV What DO I say to an adultery victim as a pastor? Yesterday’s post raised this question. Dr. Skinner suggested a … Continue reading “Pastor to DM: What DO I say to an adultery victim?”

Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….”

For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading “Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….””

Evil toying cheaters

Some cheaters are acutely aware of the power they have over the faithful spouse. They understand that divorcing their spouse will mean the professional destruction of the faithful spouse. Plus, they may know that the faithful spouse is highly committed to working through even infidelity. With this knowledge, they toy with the faithful spouse taking … Continue reading “Evil toying cheaters”

Not a kiss, but rather a final hug.

“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “Not a kiss, but rather a final hug.”

On expectations to be the “model” divorced spouse

“’I am innocent, but it makes no difference to me—     I despise my life.  Innocent or wicked, it is all the same to God.     That’s why I say, ‘He destroys both the blameless and the wicked.’” -Job 9:21-22, NLT Ever noticed the pressure among Christians to talk about “our part” when our marriages end in divorce–even … Continue reading “On expectations to be the “model” divorced spouse”

What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say about submissive wives!

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. -Ephesians 5:24, NIV What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say! I did a post on a verse used against husbands (see here). This one is for the ladies–i.e. the faithful wives. Notice this verse and surrounding passage NEVER mentions divorce. Not … Continue reading “What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say about submissive wives!”