TerKeust, who has five children, said she believes the “wisest (and hardest) choice I can make is to stop fighting to save my marriage of 29 years and, instead, accept reality.” -from “Lysa TerKeurst announces divorce after battling to save marriage, standing ‘firm’ in faith despite pain” by Leah MarieAnn Klett in The Christian Post, Sunday, January … Continue reading “Lysa TerKeurst Divorcing, Apparently”
Category: Theology of divorce
The merciful gift of divorce.
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. -Jeremiah 3:8, NIV I am grateful for the merciful gift of divorce. The mercy is for the faithful spouse. They are set free from the destructive path the cheater is hell-bent to follow to their ultimate spiritual destruction (see Hebrews … Continue reading “The merciful gift of divorce.”
Divorce grief and the community
Divorce impacts a community. Like the sin of adultery, it is not a private affair (see Deut. 22:22). The divorce hits the whole network of relationships. It is painful to face the reality that a couple is no longer a couple. This is doubly so when you like and connected with both spouses. This way of … Continue reading “Divorce grief and the community”
“Failed Marriage” label issues
Divorce = “Failed Marriage” Is a marriage that ends other than in divorce thereby “successful?” I may be speaking from my own baggage or sensitivities on this. Plenty of divorced individuals seem to have no problem with this word selection. However, I do not like the word choice when “failed marriage” is used interchangeably for … Continue reading ““Failed Marriage” label issues”
It is YOUR decision, not your pastor’s!
But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery. -Matthew 5:32, NLT Faithful spouse, you are free to choose divorce over staying in an abusive marriage with a cheater. This is what I see … Continue reading “It is YOUR decision, not your pastor’s!”
Divorcing a cheater is not an “easy way out!”
Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? -Matthew 7:4, NKJV A faithful spouse choosing to divorce a cheater is not taking the “easy way out!” It is disgusting that a follower of Christ would ever suggest such a thing. They … Continue reading “Divorcing a cheater is not an “easy way out!””
Pushing Soul Rape Victims Back To the Perpetrators
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” … Continue reading “Pushing Soul Rape Victims Back To the Perpetrators”
No shame. Divorce is acceptable in dealing with marital, sexual immorality.
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV I do not see a time limit set on these words. The exemption is there for anyone who has a spouse that engaged in sexually unfaithful behavior. That is what I see in … Continue reading “No shame. Divorce is acceptable in dealing with marital, sexual immorality.”
Yet she still claims to be a Christian.
Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. I Corinthians 7:15, NASB When a partner is abusive and leaves or forces a faithful partner to separate, is a divorce an option for the abused partner … Continue reading “Yet she still claims to be a Christian.”
Second marriage is better than first!
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV Christians are terrible as far as how they attempt to manipulate faithful spouses into staying married to unrepentant cheaters. I can think of several spiritually abusive moves that faithful spouses endure in various Christian communities who take a dim or … Continue reading “Second marriage is better than first!”