Category: Theology of divorce

On fools and foolish arguments.

Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “On fools and foolish arguments.”

Dear DM, Are second marriages adulterous?

Hi DM, I know that my comment would have almost nothing to do with your OG post, but I’ve been really struggling with this and I need your help. I’m a Pentecostal Christian, my wife let me years ago due to infidelity, she had lots of “lovers”, my life has been a mess since then … Continue reading “Dear DM, Are second marriages adulterous?”

Friendly divorce narrative

But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. -Matthew 5:32, NIV “Yeah, we weren’t right for each other. But we are still friends,” says a divorcee. Within Christian circles, the friendly divorce seems to … Continue reading “Friendly divorce narrative”

Recalibrating Expectations: Marriage resurrection is not the norm.

 ….but the angel said, “Don’t be alarmed. You are looking for Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified. He isn’t here! He is risen from the dead! Look, this is where they laid his body.” -Mark 16:6, NLT Resurrection is unexpected. It is not how things normally go. This is in part why Jesus coming back from … Continue reading “Recalibrating Expectations: Marriage resurrection is not the norm.”

Hosea had a special call on his life from God!

When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.”  – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading “Hosea had a special call on his life from God!”

Silencing of faithful spouses by the Christian community

May all who gloat over my distress     be put to shame and confusion; may all who exalt themselves over me     be clothed with shame and disgrace. -Psalm 35:25, NIV Churches and church leaders, generally speaking, are not good at giving faithful spouses a voice and reaffirming their agency. At least, that is my experience. What is common … Continue reading “Silencing of faithful spouses by the Christian community”

Assumption regarding faithful spouses staying

Another megachurch pastor has fallen from his position via marital infidelity. This time it involved a megachurch pastor in Orlando, FL. In his article “Orlando Church Community Reels from News of Another Pastor Scandal,” reporter Jackson Elliott expounds that Zach Van Dyke of Summit Church (Herndon Campus) admitted to an affair. While this is a … Continue reading “Assumption regarding faithful spouses staying”

But I wanted to stay divorce!!!

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb,     and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;     may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:20-21, NIV Shame … Continue reading “But I wanted to stay divorce!!!”

Your second marriage is NOT doomed!

 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV I am deeply troubled by how acceptable it is within Christian leadership to use fear about divorce against faithful spouses. If you are like me, you have heard the terrifying … Continue reading “Your second marriage is NOT doomed!”