Some Christians are more upset over divorce than adultery!

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV In some Christian circles, the only unpardonable sin in a marriage is filing for divorce. Everything else might be frowned upon but does not receive the vitriol from the pulpit that choosing divorce does. Such priorities are evidence of idolatry as this is not how God treats … Continue reading “Some Christians are more upset over divorce than adultery!”

Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?

Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the Lord has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin. Nevertheless, because you have shown utter contempt for the word of the Lord by doing this, your child will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NLT Is the cheater asking for forgiveness or simply seeking to avoid … Continue reading “Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?”

Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” does NOT justify cheating!

Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat! What astounds me is how some pastors do not think this one through very well. They “joke” about their wives “putting up” with them even in the presence of a divorced pastor whose wife cheated on him. They either fail to see how insensitive that … Continue reading “Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” does NOT justify cheating!”

Pastors, be more biblical and leave divorce off your vice list!

Pastors, let us strike “divorce” from our list of social ills and vices! Before going through a divorce myself, I probably never would have understood the importance of this simple move. I was not sensitized to the subtle shaming messages such inclusion sends. What I have noticed is how pastors and other Christian leaders will … Continue reading “Pastors, be more biblical and leave divorce off your vice list!”

God’s Deal-Breakers: Eschatological Lessons on Covenant

But they were broken off because of unbelief, and you stand by faith. Do not be arrogant, but tremble. For if God did not spare the natural branches, he will not spare you either. -Romans 11:20b-21, NIV An often used argument against faithful spouses choosing divorce from a cheater is the analogy to God’s covenant with his people. … Continue reading “God’s Deal-Breakers: Eschatological Lessons on Covenant”

Re: Comment on “Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story”

I recently received a comment responding to my Christmas post where I share divorce lessons from the Christmas story (click here to read what I wrote). It is a thoughtful comment that I believe deserves some engagement from my end. So, I decided to pull it out and share my thoughts in response to it. … Continue reading “Re: Comment on “Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story””

Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story

This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, … Continue reading “Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story”

Worth Asking: Is God always on the side of the marriage?

“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from … Continue reading “Worth Asking: Is God always on the side of the marriage?”

PSA: Committing adultery, pastors, is the real shameful matter here, NOT divorce!

But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “PSA: Committing adultery, pastors, is the real shameful matter here, NOT divorce!”

Sickening Smugness Among “Christians”

Smug, married Christians act intolerably towards faithful spouses hemorrhaging from soul rape. These are “know it all” Christians who think all that proceeds from their mouths is gold. They are the “wise” ones in their eyes. The reality is what proceeds from their mouths would be better used to fertilize the fields. These smug people … Continue reading “Sickening Smugness Among “Christians””