Recently, Taylor Swift testified in a court case where a DJ was suing her for losing his job. This DJ, David Mueller, had grabbed Taylor Swift’s bottom–i.e. sexually assaulted her–and got fired over this unacceptable behavior by his employer (more info here). Taylor was testifying about her feelings regarding his firing. Essentially, she makes it … Continue reading “Taylor Swift, Sexual Assault, and Adultery Victim Blaming Parallels”
Category: Theology of divorce
Dear DM, I just don’t know what to do….
Dear DM, Please I need your help…. I am a 25 year old female who is in a 1 year relationship with a 52 year old man, but that’s not inherently where the issue lies…. The man I am dating is a pastor. And he is married. I met him when the pastor at the … Continue reading “Dear DM, I just don’t know what to do….”
The “Model Divorced”
“Yes, we are divorced. But we’re friends. I understand I made mistakes, too, in our marriage.” – “Model” Divorcee If you do get divorced, I sense this is what people–maybe Christians especially–want to hear. They want a nice narrative where they do not have to pick sides. And maybe some divorcees can become friends with each other after the … Continue reading “The “Model Divorced””
Cheater-speak: “Telling him would be selfish.”
“Telling him would be selfish. That would ruin our marriage.” – Cheater What a twisted lie people tell themselves and others! Think if we applied this lie to a different situation: Someone embezzles tens of thousands from your friend’s retirement account. They are a “good” criminal and know how to hide the theft. Would … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Telling him would be selfish.””
Clueless Christian: “What did you learn?”
“I’ll tell you by what authority I do these things if you answer one question,” Jesus replied. -Mark 11:29, NLT “What did you learn about yourself from your divorce?” – Clueless Christian (asking Faithful Spouse) Context matters. I have no problem asking honest questions coming from a humble or genuine place of interest. What I … Continue reading “Clueless Christian: “What did you learn?””
Pro-Tip: Pastors, Faithful Spouses Need Condemnation Free Spaces
Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us…. -Romans 8:33-34a, NLT What faithful spouses need more than spiritual advice are people willing to listen to them without condemnation. Faithful spouses are recovering … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Pastors, Faithful Spouses Need Condemnation Free Spaces”
When a business partnership ends…
When a business partnership ends, we do not necessarily assume one party is punishing the other. Now, I believe marriage is much more than a business partnership or general contract. It is a covenant. However, I do think it is helpful to think about the two together. It is helpful to correct thinking that choosing … Continue reading “When a business partnership ends…”
If we always remain spiritually married to a living spouse, then…
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when … Continue reading “If we always remain spiritually married to a living spouse, then…”
Is Divorce Minister Making Divorce Permissive Society Problem Worse?
“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.” -Matthew 7:13-14, NIV Too Divorce Permissive? The Scripture’s take on divorce … Continue reading “Is Divorce Minister Making Divorce Permissive Society Problem Worse?”
As if we all were given a choice!
“Remember, I pray thee, who ever perished, being innocent? or where were the righteous cut off? Even as I have seen, they that plow iniquity, and sow wickedness, reap the same.” – Eliphaz the Temanite in Job 4:7-8, KJV And it was so, that after the Lord had spoken these words unto Job, the Lord said to … Continue reading “As if we all were given a choice!”