The Lord replied, “I have forgiven them, as you asked. …not one of them will ever see the land I promised on oath to their ancestors. No one who has treated me with contempt will ever see it. -Numbers 14:20, 23, NIV A faithful spouse may forgive a cheater yet still divorce him or her. God forgave the Israelites for … Continue reading “Forgiveness does not erase all consequences!”
Category: Theology of divorce
NOT arguing for the return of the death penalty for cheaters!
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT When I quote from the Old Testament Law about adultery, my point is not to argue for a reinstatement for the death penalty. My point is to push … Continue reading “NOT arguing for the return of the death penalty for cheaters!”
Warning Against “Throwing Away Your Marriage”
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. -Leviticus 20:10, KJV “Don’t throw away your marriage over this,” the well-meaning pastor tells the sobbing faithful spouse upon discovery of the adulterous double life … Continue reading “Warning Against “Throwing Away Your Marriage””
RE: What about the Mark 10 passage on divorce?
But that doesn’t mean that the law has lost its force. It is easier for heaven and earth to disappear than for the smallest point of God’s law to be overturned. -Luke 16:17, NLT In response to my post “What about the Mark 10 passage on divorce?” Bill wrote: We addressed this before. You have … Continue reading “RE: What about the Mark 10 passage on divorce?”
What about the Mark 10 passage on divorce?
He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” -Mark 10:11-12, NIV Unlike Matthew, Mark (and Luke in 16:18) does not provide an explicit exception for divorcing an adulterous spouse. Some find this omission in both Mark and … Continue reading “What about the Mark 10 passage on divorce?”
John Piper Is Okay With Widowed Spouses Remarrying…
“There won’t be marriage and giving in marriage like there are here and now. So, at the principle level, widows and widowers are free to marry in the Lord.” -John Piper answering “Can I Remarry If My Spouse Dies? Should I?” While this probably does not mark a change in Piper’s position regarding remarriage for … Continue reading “John Piper Is Okay With Widowed Spouses Remarrying…”
Question Exchange: Did you try reconciling? Instead…
You know the commandments: ‘Do not commit adultery,’ ‘Do not murder,’ ‘Do not steal,’ ‘Do not bear false witness,’ ‘Do not defraud,’ ‘Honor your father and your mother.’” -Mark 10:19, NKJV QUESTION EXCHANGE Instead of probing the faithful spouse regarding their efforts to reconcile with a cheater, I suggest putting the onus upon the cheater. … Continue reading “Question Exchange: Did you try reconciling? Instead…”
If half the energy put towards condemning divorcees…
Notice how some Christians feel completely free to share condemning opinions about divorce with faithful spouses but suddenly become silent regarding adultery with cheaters? It is so odd. The same people who wouldn’t DARE confront your cheater over her infidelity are the same crowd probing or condemning you for choosing divorce. They behave as if “Thou … Continue reading “If half the energy put towards condemning divorcees…”
Please give divorcing faithful spouses the benefit of the doubt
Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not wanting to make her a public example, was minded to put her away secretly. -Matthew 1:19, NKJV With famous Christian author, Lysa TerKeurst, opening up about divorcing her unfaithful husband, I am struck by how the Christian community demands faithful spouses to explain themselves when … Continue reading “Please give divorcing faithful spouses the benefit of the doubt”
Hardened
But this time also Pharaoh hardened his heart and would not let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, NIV The reality of one’s powerlessness is one of the most difficult aspects of going through an unwanted divorce. Yet this very real powerlessness can serve as a comfort after the fact! As an introspective person, I find … Continue reading “Hardened”