Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!

  Thus saith the LORD, Where is the bill of your mother’s divorcement, whom I have put away? or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities have ye sold yourselves, and for your transgressions is your mother put away. -Isaiah 50:1, KJV A cheater is not … Continue reading “Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!”

What was the most confusing thing about the experience?

What was the most confusing part of the experience? So much is confusing and difficult when discovering a spouse has been unfaithful. So called “Christian” advice to forgive and forget in an effort to “save” the marriage is a big piece that adds to the confusion of the day. Another candidate for most confusing is the … Continue reading “What was the most confusing thing about the experience?”

Does Feminism Cause Divorce?

Test all things; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil. -I Thessalonians 5:21-22, NKJV Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves….Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:  Who, being in the form of God, … Continue reading “Does Feminism Cause Divorce?”

Jesus did NOT quote Malachi 2:16 on divorce…

“For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel…. -Malachi 2:16a, NASB “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NASB Jesus did not quote the infamous passage from Malachi on divorce: “I [God] hate divorce.” This is an important observation … Continue reading “Jesus did NOT quote Malachi 2:16 on divorce…”

Divorce Is NOT Your End!

The LORD blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12, NIV Divorce is scary. It is made unnecessarily so–in part–by a Christian culture bent on blaming faithful spouses. Singleness is hardly an ideal state in the Christian community, and divorced singles have the added burden of dealing with the … Continue reading “Divorce Is NOT Your End!”

Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.”

As a dog returns to its vomit,     so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Committing adultery is foolish, foolish behavior.  The Bible names it as such in Proverbs 5. And the general observation from chapter twenty-six is that fools repeat such folly. Maybe this does not happen always, but it does usually as this … Continue reading “Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.””

Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters

“Can’t you see?! You’ve divorced her in your heart.” -“Christian” Lay Counselor Such a statement is highly irresponsible. It is like waving catnip in front of a cheater. They are likely to take this statement and go forth to act as if they are truly not married (even though they are). A “Christian” leader trying to … Continue reading “Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters”

Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!

And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” –I Corinthians 6:16, NLT Cheaters seem to enjoy playing the “martyr card.” They claim their spouse did not give them enough sex or emotional attention. “We … Continue reading “Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!”

Worthy of Basic Respect and Love!

See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. -I John 3:1a, NASB With pastors and other Christian leaders, it can sometimes feel like the faithful spouse is on trial regarding the infidelity or divorce. Behind the questions regarding how my … Continue reading “Worthy of Basic Respect and Love!”

At What Point Is the Affair Considered “Physical” Biblically?

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” -Matthew 5:27-28, NIV “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew … Continue reading “At What Point Is the Affair Considered “Physical” Biblically?”