And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful. -Matthew 19:9, NLT It mystified me why good Christian pastors ever needed to hear more to the story of my marriage’s ending than verification that my ex-wife had committed adultery whereas I had remained sexually … Continue reading “Alone, Adultery Causes Divorce!”
Category: Theology of divorce
Divorce: Assigning blame, why bother?
“For I, the LORD, love justice. I hate robbery and wrongdoing. I will faithfully reward my people for their suffering and make an everlasting covenant with them.” -Isaiah 61:8, NLT When I was going through my ecclesiastical trial to keep my ministerial credentials, the question was raised over why my former denomination was so fixated … Continue reading “Divorce: Assigning blame, why bother?”
“Don’t throw away your marriage” advice
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. -Leviticus 20:10, KJV “Don’t throw away your marriage over this,” the well-meaning pastor tells the sobbing faithful spouse upon discovery of the adulterous double life … Continue reading ““Don’t throw away your marriage” advice”
Lesson: Dating Two At A Time Was And Is Wrong!
“I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you—something that even pagans don’t do.” -I Corinthians 5:1a, NLT I played four years of collegiate-level football at a small liberal arts college in Minnesota. It was a good experience for the relationships I developed over those years even though we weren’t … Continue reading “Lesson: Dating Two At A Time Was And Is Wrong!”
An Exchange Regarding Assuming Divorce
Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” -Matthew 19:3, NLT On Monday, I shared a post about how certain lines of questioning cross the line (click here). This inspired the following comment from OKRickety, which I plan on … Continue reading “An Exchange Regarding Assuming Divorce”
“What did you learn?” Crosses A Line
So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, NKJV I remember being asked a form of the question so often asked of faithful spouses. We are asked, “What did you … Continue reading ““What did you learn?” Crosses A Line”
Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!
When Cephas came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he stood condemned…The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy…. -Galatians 2:11, 13a, NIV Sometimes a rebuke is in order. Cephas, aka the Apostle Peter, needed a rebuke by the Apostle Paul for doing what he knew was wrong and leading others astray … Continue reading “Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!”
Stop Swigging Salt Water!
So Moses brought Israel from the Red sea, and they went out into the wilderness of Shur; and they went three days in the wilderness, and found no water. And when they came to Marah, they could not drink of the waters of Marah, for they were bitter: therefore the name of it was called … Continue reading “Stop Swigging Salt Water!”
On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce
“But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.” -Matthew 5:32, NLT Part of the justification cheaters often use to blame-shift upon faithful spouses is the charge of being unhappy in the marriage. Let’s … Continue reading “On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce”
“Thou shalt not commit adultery” is NOT confusing, folks!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV When an adulterous spouse feigns ignorance or confusion over the ending of their marriage, it is a ploy to avoid taking responsibility. This isn’t rocket science, folks! God does not command the ending of a marriage over adultery in the Old Testament to signal such sin is … Continue reading ““Thou shalt not commit adultery” is NOT confusing, folks!”