Lord, who may dwell in your sacred tent? Who may live on your holy mountain? The one whose walk is blameless … who keeps an oath even when it hurts, and does not change their mind…. -Psalm 15:1-2a,4b, NIV I just do not get the counseling world and the fascination in making faithful spouses responsible for … Continue reading “Keeping Your Vow Is Your Job And Not Another’s!”
Category: Theology of divorce
Really?! Dr. Gary Chapman On Cheaters.
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! I Corinthians 6:15, NIV When I was going through my separation prior to divorce, I read many books in my desperation to “save” my marriage. One of those … Continue reading “Really?! Dr. Gary Chapman On Cheaters.”
False Spiritual Safety
“Many will say to me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?’ And then will I profess unto them, ‘I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.’” -Matthew 7:22-23, KJV (quotation marks … Continue reading “False Spiritual Safety”
Better Divorced Than Damned!
“And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me,” … Continue reading “Better Divorced Than Damned!”
I speak as an evangelical chaplain.
I am an evangelical, ordained minister and professional chaplain. This website tackles infidelity from those lenses. I maintain that the Bible has plenty to say on the topics of adultery, abandonment, and divorce to correct what currently is out there for faithful spouses. In launching this blog, I am attempting to provide healing words to … Continue reading “I speak as an evangelical chaplain.”
Pushback Re: “Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity” Lie Post
Today, I received a comment on my post Lie: Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity. It typifies the common “wisdom” that I have encountered from various Christian counselors, authors, and pastors when comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. I am not shocked that I got push back for unmasking this particularly destructive lie. John wrote, I am … Continue reading “Pushback Re: “Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity” Lie Post”
Actions, actions, actions!
Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right. -Proverbs 20:11, KJV Reality can be a slippery thing to grasp sometimes. Nowhere is this more evident than coming to terms with the actual person one has married upon discovery of infidelity. The temptation is to ignore the … Continue reading “Actions, actions, actions!”
Treachery Teaching: A Mark Driscoll Heresy
And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy … Continue reading “Treachery Teaching: A Mark Driscoll Heresy”
Let’s make church a place for the sinned-against, too!
When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Protestant churches are places for sinners. True. Are they places for those sinned against? Of course, we are all sinners in a need of our Savior (see Romans 3:23). Yet some … Continue reading “Let’s make church a place for the sinned-against, too!”
Protestantism, Forgiveness, and Failing Adultery Victims
So they sat down with him upon the ground seven days and seven nights, and none spake a word unto him: for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, KJV Protestantism is big on sin and forgiveness. Emphasis on sin and forgiveness is pervasive through evangelical teaching and preaching. That is good. … Continue reading “Protestantism, Forgiveness, and Failing Adultery Victims”