In those days John the Baptist came, preaching in the wilderness of Judea and saying, “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near.” -Matthew 3:1-2, NIV “You got to fight for your marriage!” says Christian leader. I find it odd, these days, to think how the Christian community puts “saving the marriage” on the faithful spouse. … Continue reading “Not right to put onus onto faithful spouse!”
Category: Theology of divorce
Hate adultery, NOT divorce!
Declaring a hatred of divorce is akin to declaring a hatred of amputation. Healthy people do not go around hoping to get an amputation. However, a doctor might suggest an amputation to stop an infection from killing them. Does it make sense to tell that patient, “I hate amputation?” Divorce is an unfortunately necessary procedure … Continue reading “Hate adultery, NOT divorce!”
Will not rebuild
“Even if she cheated on me, I would still stay with her and try to make the marriage work,” says faithful spouse. “You’d just hold that over her head forever,” replies cheater apologist. When this is the mentality or response from the cheater side, you know the marriage is done. This sort of response exposes … Continue reading “Will not rebuild”
When living by “Law” is more merciful than “Grace”
If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV When one’s interpretation of “grace” is more strict and less merciful than the plain writing of the “law,” then I suggest something is wrong with … Continue reading “When living by “Law” is more merciful than “Grace””
An intentional marriage torching
Some cheaters know their faithful spouse will give them unending, second chances. So, they set up a system to torch the marriage. These are the haughty cheater types. They think they are the prize and the faithful spouse must demonstrate their worthiness. Such pride is at the root of their sinfully wicked hearts. They abuse … Continue reading “An intentional marriage torching”
A good distraction
When my life was recently obliterated by the discovery of the other man plus my (now ex) wife serving me divorce papers, I took a trip to visit my best friends in New York City. It was Labor Day weekend. Now, I am not a huge NYC fan–no offense to those who love this city … Continue reading “A good distraction”
Reconciliation, NOT Restoration
And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to friendship, NOT marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciliation, NOT Restoration”
God’s opinion matters most!
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV If God is for us,who can be against us? -Romans 8:31b, NIV Trust God, Fear NOT “Man!” My anxiety often escalates when I start concerning myself with the opinions of “man” over what I know is God’s verdict … Continue reading “God’s opinion matters most!”
Emotional Affair sign
“Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” -Matthew 19:6, NLT When your wife is more concerned about the opinion of her male “friend” than she is of her husband, you can be assured she has crossed over to an emotional affair, minimally. This is … Continue reading “Emotional Affair sign”
God is very serious about adultery.
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT This verse says it all. It teaches us that God viewed adultery as a marriage ending sin. How so? God required the adulterous spouse to die in light of said … Continue reading “God is very serious about adultery.”