Category: Theology of divorce

DM’s Three Main Messages

The time following infidelity is often very confusing to the sucker-punched faithful spouse. This website was launched as a resource and support for Christian faithful spouses trying to navigate such treacherous waters. It was also started to help pastors and Christian leaders who truly care about faithful spouses during such traumatic times. What I have … Continue reading “DM’s Three Main Messages”

When will you believe it?

So the other disciples told him, “We have seen the Lord!” But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe.” – John 20:25, NIV It was August 2012. And the evidence … Continue reading “When will you believe it?”

Pastors: “Please Insist On Faithful Spouses Being Told!”

“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”  – Matthew 5:23-24, NIV A danger with a strong evangelical, Protestant … Continue reading “Pastors: “Please Insist On Faithful Spouses Being Told!””

Unhelpful Observation: “God permits divorce, BUT He never commands it.”

“God permits faithful spouses to divorce adulterous spouses. BUT He never commands it.” -Unhelpful Pastoral Advice This is technically true. God does not directly command anyone to divorce.* But before getting smug over one’s rightness on this matter consider what God does say regarding adulterous spouses: God commands His people to kill adulterous spouses! –see Deut. 22:22 … Continue reading “Unhelpful Observation: “God permits divorce, BUT He never commands it.””

Get A Lawyer

When one of you has a dispute with another believer, how dare you file a lawsuit and ask a secular court to decide the matter instead of taking it to other believers! – I Corinthians 6:1, NLT “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, … Continue reading “Get A Lawyer”

Invoking God’s Name

Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth … Continue reading “Invoking God’s Name”

When Tragedy Strikes A Pastor…

How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “When Tragedy Strikes A Pastor…”

Years of Infidelity Makes Godly Marriage Restoration Doubtful

The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT Recently, I was reading a book about apologies and forgiveness. It is a book by a well-known, evangelical Christian author. But I will neither name the author(s) or the book for the purpose of today’s post. Those details … Continue reading “Years of Infidelity Makes Godly Marriage Restoration Doubtful”

Embezzler Analogy Test

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. – James 1:13-14, NIV Committing adultery is no more indicative of prior marriage problems than embezzling … Continue reading “Embezzler Analogy Test”