Some cheaters will come back around and attempt to reconnect with their faithful partner after the divorce. They may want to rehash what happened in the marriage. This is just a recipe for abuse for the faithful partner. Do NOT take the bait! A repentant cheater would put action to their sorry. They wouldn’t try … Continue reading “Wanting to rehash the marriage”
Category: Theology of divorce
Preaching “Thou Shalt Not Divorce” as if part of Ten Commandments!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV A pet peeve of mine these days is hearing fellow pastors condemn divorce from the pulpit. It might come in the form of a lament of people going “the easy way.” Some might be bold enough to call out divorce as “evil.” The odd thing is they … Continue reading “Preaching “Thou Shalt Not Divorce” as if part of Ten Commandments!”
What treatment will you tolerate?
What treatment will you tolerate? Faithful spouses, we have choices. We have agency in these matters. Those choices or options are not very good ones, true. It is a buffet of bad options. But we DO have choices! We do not have to stay in an adulterous and abusive marriage (see Mt 19:9). The option … Continue reading “What treatment will you tolerate?”
3 Things Pastors and Church Leaders Need To Know About Adultery
-3 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ADULTERY- 1. ADULTERY IS SOUL RAPE! The Bible is clear about the principle about how a married couple is no longer two individuals in a spiritual sense but are actually one (see Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, I Corinthians 6:15-18, etc). Following from this oneness principle of marriage, any … Continue reading “3 Things Pastors and Church Leaders Need To Know About Adultery”
Time to shake off their dust!
And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them. -Luke 9:5, KJV Jesus gave us a ministry of reconciliation (see 2 Corinthians 5:18), yet Jesus told His Disciples to move on if this ministry was rejected! Cheaters reject godly reconciliation … Continue reading “Time to shake off their dust!”
Matthew 19:9 – First Nations Version
“‘But here is how I will answer you,’ he told them. ‘Any man who sends his wife away and marries another is guilty of being unfaithful to her, unless she was the one who was not faithful.’” -Matthew 19:9, First Nations Version: An Indigenous Translation of the New Testament I love reading Bible verses in … Continue reading “Matthew 19:9 – First Nations Version”
Fact: Cheaters flunked marriage.
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV (from The Ten Commandments) Fact: Cheaters are marriage flunkies. One of the most basic lessons in Christian marriage is adhering to this classic and consistent prohibition regarding sex with marriage outsiders. Cheaters have–spectacularly, in some cases–flunked this most basic of marriage lessons. Yet for some reason, … Continue reading “Fact: Cheaters flunked marriage.”
Were not looking for it!
Even when filing the divorce papers, the faithful spouse really did not choose this outcome. What they chose was a marriage free of infidelity! The filing of the papers was the choice they had left after the choice of the cheater to destroy the agreed upon future by being unfaithful. The good options–the preferred option–was … Continue reading “Were not looking for it!”
Beware of sand foundations!
But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. -Matthew 7:26, NLT We all know it is a sand foundation. This is the truth of trying to rebuild a marriage with the infidelity left unaddressed or treated as a “minor” problem. The marriage … Continue reading “Beware of sand foundations!”
Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce
Recently, Chump Lady posted on Doug Weiss’ divorce and then sudden engagement to Joni Lamb (of the Christian Daystar broadcasting fame). Dr. Doug Weiss treats “sex addiction” and claims to be in recovery from sex addiction for over 30 years. While this is important information to know for context, this post is not so much … Continue reading “Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce”