“You sound angry. I really think you need to forgive your spouse for cheating on you. Forgive and forget. After all, Jesus did that for you.” -Christian “Friend” to Faithful Spouse The most hurtful pieces of advice usually have a hint of truth as does this one. We do need to forgive our spouses … Continue reading ““You Need To Forgive Your Adulterous Spouse.””
Category: Theology of divorce
Responding to Foolish Bible Applications
Be sure to answer the foolish arguments of fools, or they will become wise in their own estimation. -Proverbs 26:5, NLT Often times, I encounter frequent flyers as far as passages used to abuse faithful spouses. Well-meaning or just self-righteous religious people spout off some verse or passage thinking they are dispensing much needed … Continue reading “Responding to Foolish Bible Applications”
Answering Questioners
So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them,“He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” – John 8:7, NKJV This past weekend I had some interesting conversations with people I had just met. They were generally positive interactions on the whole. I appreciated … Continue reading “Answering Questioners”
Mailbag: DM, Your Take On My Past Situation With My Cheating (Now) Ex-Wife
Micheal wrote, Hi Rev. David. At my one and only counseling session with my ex-wife, after I discovered her affair, she openly declared that she fully intended to go away for the weekend with her affair partner and that she wasn’t done with her cheating. She showed no remorse, contrition and she was down right … Continue reading “Mailbag: DM, Your Take On My Past Situation With My Cheating (Now) Ex-Wife”
Stop Lamenting Divorce Rates!
For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! – Galatians 5:14-15, NKJV Lamenting divorce rates among Christians Likely, it is meant well. Good intentions are there, I am sure. … Continue reading “Stop Lamenting Divorce Rates!”
Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay
Yesterday, I had an interesting exchange with another pastor who raised a concern. He was wondering if my blogging is shaming for faithful spouses who choose to stay and restore their marriage with a cheater. I am writing today to address that concern. To be crystal clear: My goal is NOT to shame faithful spouses who … Continue reading “Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay”
Divorce Was Not Part of God’s Original Plan–So What?!
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a … Continue reading “Divorce Was Not Part of God’s Original Plan–So What?!”
Fighting Divorce Shame
And now shall mine head be lifted up above mine enemies round about me: therefore will I offer in his tabernacle sacrifices of joy; I will sing, yea, I will sing praises unto the Lord. – Psalm 27:6, KJV Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is … Continue reading “Fighting Divorce Shame”
Learning From Commanded and Godly Divorce
“Let us now make a covenant with our God to divorce our pagan wives and to send them away with their children….” Then Ezra the priest stood and said to them: “You have committed a terrible sin. By marrying pagan women, you have increased Israel’s guilt. So now confess your sin to the Lord, the … Continue reading “Learning From Commanded and Godly Divorce”
Give Up Trying To Get Agreement
A sage trying to work things out with a fool gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. Proverbs 29:9, The Message When I was processing the end of my marriage and even while I was still fighting for it not to end in divorce, I wasted a lot of energy contending over the marriage narrative … Continue reading “Give Up Trying To Get Agreement”