Category: Theology of divorce

Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce

“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” – Malachi 2:16, ESV Some of us have had the double-whammy of having our former spouse both … Continue reading “Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce”

Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.

Dear Divorce Minister,   I moved to Africa 8 years ago to join my African husband (married 6 yrs, no children). There was no way he would have moved in my direction as he was passionate about his job in Africa. I accepted that and gave up my job, house & country with friends and … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.”

Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring

Let’s be honest here: It is easier to identify people who are divorced than people who are committing adultery. Adulterous spouses are notorious for hiding their cheating ways with various levels of success. However, with a divorce, a public stance is made. The marriage relationship is officially over in the eyes of the state. And … Continue reading “Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring”

Mailbag: What To Do?

Danabern7 wrote, I would like you and your wife’s advice on my situation . Husband cheated on me in an affair for sure 15 yrs. ago . About 4 yrs. ago I found text messages to him and a married co- worker calling her “baby” and that’s my girl”. When I threatened to call her … Continue reading “Mailbag: What To Do?”

Israel truly “divorced” and not restored

“She [nation of Judah] saw that for all the adulteries of that faithless one, Israel, I had sent her away with a decree of divorce. Yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear, but she too went and played the whore.” -God speaking in Jeremiah 3:8, ESV While very graphic and difficult (using words like … Continue reading “Israel truly “divorced” and not restored”

The Christmas Story Instructing Us On Adultery And Divorce

Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. – Matthew … Continue reading “The Christmas Story Instructing Us On Adultery And Divorce”

How Many Times Does Jesus Say He Hates Divorce?

How many times does Jesus say that he hates divorce? 0 Zilch. None. Not once. This might surprise you if you’ve heard teachings on this from the pulpit. You probably have heard messages about how God hates divorce. However, well-meaning Christian leaders usually omit that this passage (Malachi 2:16) is really about using divorce to … Continue reading “How Many Times Does Jesus Say He Hates Divorce?”

Divorce Is NOT Worst Outcome Following Adultery

  The speaker in the above clip from The Gospel Coalition, which is a theologically Reformed group of like-minded, evangelical Christian leaders, is Pastor Erwin Lutzer. He is a longtime senior pastor at The Moody Church in Chicago, IL. Pastor Lutzer does radio shows espousing his evangelical views and is a very prolific writer publishing … Continue reading “Divorce Is NOT Worst Outcome Following Adultery”

Despising God’s Gifts

Once when Jacob was cooking stew, Esau came in from the field, and he was exhausted. And Esau said to Jacob, “Let me eat some of that red stew, for I am exhausted!” (Therefore his name was called Edom.) Jacob said, “Sell me your birthright now.” Esau said, “I am about to die; of what … Continue reading “Despising God’s Gifts”