Category: Theology of divorce

“Starter Marriage” Nonsense

And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’” -Matthew 19:5, NLT When my first marriage was falling apart, I remember someone bringing up the idea of “starter marriages.” The idea is one where the first marriage is simply … Continue reading ““Starter Marriage” Nonsense”

No hope? Self-fulfilling cheater prophecy.

“I just do not have any hope for our marriage.” -Cheater Ironically, faithful spouses are usually  the ones who are accused of giving up on the marriage. The reality is that the cheater gave up on the marriage the moment they decided to violate their marriage vows. Plus, many of us–I suspect–sat in the counseling … Continue reading “No hope? Self-fulfilling cheater prophecy.”

Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom”

Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NLT So much advice or counsel in the church on adultery and divorce is “high-sounding nonsense” in my opinion. Most do not approach the topic … Continue reading “Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom””

The way things are taught in church you would think…

14 Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV You would think… …this verse said: “Thou shalt not divorce your spouse.” But it does NOT! The Bible does not treat divorce like it treats adultery. Our Ten Commandments doe NOT prohibit divorce. They prohibit adultery. This is clear. However, you would think Bible-believing pastors were preaching … Continue reading “The way things are taught in church you would think…”

Teaching “Divorce is sin” enables abuse!

And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. -Jeremiah 3:8, KJV Pastors, if you are teaching divorce as always an awful sin, you are … Continue reading “Teaching “Divorce is sin” enables abuse!”

Game Film and “Critical Errors” Applied to Cheaters

After a Saturday football game, my college coaches would take the game “film” and grade how each of us–athletes–performed in that contest. One category used in their film grading system was called “critical errors.” This label was reserved for mistakes so big that the mistake caused the play to fail. For an offensive lineman, a … Continue reading “Game Film and “Critical Errors” Applied to Cheaters”

The real quitter is the cheater.

Let love and faithfulness never leave you;     bind them around your neck,     write them on the tablet of your heart. -Proverbs 3:3, NIV Cheaters have quit on the marriage. They have decided to go outside of the marriage to feed their sinful desires. Instead of repentance, many choose to double down on the wide and easy … Continue reading “The real quitter is the cheater.”