Beware of Bias

Since we cannot hold a perspective from nowhere and thereby be completely objective, we need to become aware of potential biases and perspectives in discerning counsel from various individuals. We all have a world view, which has been shaped by our experiences and cultures. Biases born from our worldview are neither good nor bad in … Continue reading “Beware of Bias”

Domestic Abuse As Grounds For Divorce?

Katy commented on “Resources:” Hi I found your blog from the CL blog – I love to see evangelicals standing firm and pushing back on the “all divorce is sin” myth that pervades the Body of Christ these days. Just wondering if you also see other forms of domestic abuse as grounds for divorce, not … Continue reading “Domestic Abuse As Grounds For Divorce?”

But I Want To Stay Married!

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb,     and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;     may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:20-21, NIV Shame … Continue reading “But I Want To Stay Married!”

What To Do With The In-Laws?

Today’s question is a sticky one and depends on circumstances greatly. I do not claim to have all the answers, and these are really just my opinions on the matter. However, I will pass along some advice I received from a seasoned evangelical pastor early in the dissolution of my first marriage. He told me … Continue reading “What To Do With The In-Laws?”

Uriah Was Never Blamed

Why did you despise the word of the Lord by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites…. Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan … Continue reading “Uriah Was Never Blamed”

Adultery and Church Discipline

“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If they still … Continue reading “Adultery and Church Discipline”

No More Silence From the Pulpit On Adultery

If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. – Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV “Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not … Continue reading “No More Silence From the Pulpit On Adultery”

Angels of Light & Adultery

But I will continue doing what I have always done. This will undercut those who are looking for an opportunity to boast that their work is just like ours. These people are false apostles. They are deceitful workers who disguise themselves as apostles of Christ. But I am not surprised! Even Satan disguises himself as an … Continue reading “Angels of Light & Adultery”

Adultery: A Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act

“‘But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this is what defiles. For out of the heart come evil intentions, murder, adultery, fornication, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person….’” – Jesus in Matthew 15:18-20a, NSRV. While one act of adultery is horrible enough, I suspect many outsiders fail … Continue reading “Adultery: A Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act”

Does God Give Permission To Sin?

Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be … Continue reading “Does God Give Permission To Sin?”