Josh Duggar and Ashley Madison

  Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them. – Ephesians 5:11, NLT In the wake of the Ashley Madison hack and posting of user identities, information has come to light about embattled, eldest son of the Duggar family fame. And it is not good… For those who are … Continue reading “Josh Duggar and Ashley Madison”

Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay

Yesterday, I had an interesting exchange with another pastor who raised a concern. He was wondering if my blogging is shaming for faithful spouses who choose to stay and restore their marriage with a cheater. I am writing today to address that concern. To be crystal clear: My goal is NOT to shame faithful spouses who … Continue reading “Clarification: My Goal Is NOT To Shame Faithful Spouses Who Stay”

Remember Your “Cistern Story”

So when Joseph came to his brothers, they stripped him of his robe—the ornate robe he was wearing—and they took him and threw him into the cistern. The cistern was empty; there was no water in it. – Genesis 37:23-24, NIV What’s your “Cistern Story?” Can you think of a time when your world was … Continue reading “Remember Your “Cistern Story””

Duggar Debacle

“Easy ‘forgivism’ may gloss over the terrible situation in the short term, but it reinforces to everyone that the egregious, soul-siphoning sin committed against the victim was trivial, easy to get over.” Source: In faith communities like the Duggars, abuse victims are encouraged to be filled with grace. It’s not that simple. – The Washington … Continue reading “Duggar Debacle”

Feedback Request: Pondering Writing A Book

Maybe it was dealing with horrible counsel found in Dr. Laney’s book or maybe it was a recent story of how this blog helped someone from my hometown or maybe it was writing another submission to a Christian online magazine for publication. I don’t know. Whatever it was (maybe a “Who” and not an “it”), I do … Continue reading “Feedback Request: Pondering Writing A Book”

Adultery Helps Marriages Is An Old Lie

And why not do evil that good may come?—as some people slanderously charge us with saying. Their condemnation is just. – Romans 3:8, ESV If you are at all like me, this seems like a strange argument for the Apostle Paul to be addressing in his letter to the Romans. However, my eyes were open … Continue reading “Adultery Helps Marriages Is An Old Lie”

The Adultery Partner

At the window of my house     I looked down through the lattice. I saw among the simple,     I noticed among the young men,     a youth who had no sense. -Proverbs 7:6-7, NIV Such are the words that describe the Other Man (OM) who is pulled into committing adultery with a brazen adulteress in this chapter … Continue reading “The Adultery Partner”