“Sure, some of what he stated was false. But was there anything true in his criticism of you?”

-Cheater Supporter

He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

-Genesis 3:1b, NIV

Danger! Danger! Danger!

When a cheater apologist encourages you to dig in the dung heap of lies about your character, I want to warn you: That will end poorly for you!

Our forebears got into incredible trouble exploring the truth in the lie from the serpent.

We are all better served calling a lie, a lie.

The person encouraging digging through such a lie is encouraging you to meditate on falsehoods. This is NOT godly advice (see Philippians 4:8).

A partial truth is still a lie.

You see this in the story of humanity’s fall from grace. The serpent started with the truth about God instructing humanity not to eat from a specific tree. He twisted to say “any tree.”

I believe Satan is the most dangerous when seeding his lies with a little truth. It is the truth that makes the lie “stick.” These are the most destructive of lies.

This is why I suggest rejecting them as such. Take a “no lie entertaining” stance.

 

Cheater Supporter:

“Sure, some of what he stated was false. But was there anything true in his criticism of you?”

Divorce Minister replies:

“A serpent in a garden long ago encouraged someone to engage in a very similar exercise. It didn’t well for those who played along. So, count me out on exploring that question.”

 

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