“I can’t pretend anymore!” declares Cheater.
This declaration is usually followed by some sort of blame-shift onto the faithful spouse where Cheater attacks the marriage and devalues their spouse.
They are the hero in their mind living their “truth” and unwilling to play pretend in their marriage anymore!
The irony is that they are lying to themselves (and others). Pretending is not the problem. Their actions demonstrate that.
Cheaters have NO problem pretending when it means avoiding consequences for their infidelity!
They thrive on pretending to be single when they are not in fact single. This lie about aversion to pretending is simply that–a boldface lie!
