What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mattew 19:6b, KJV

“I don’t know if I can commit to our marriage,” says Cheater revealing their contempt for God and their spouse.

  Keeping their vows before God apparently has a lower value to cheaters speaking this way than keeping their “options” open.

You cannot force someone to work on a relationship. It takes two people to reconcile and rebuild.

Their ambivalence is your answer…

The marriage is dead. Rebuilding is not an option with a cheater in that state. You cannot fix this on your own.

Please save yourself the therapy bills and hours.

The cheater has thereby declared their values do not align with yours. Their god is not your God for your God demands obedience and keeping of one’s own vows.

People who are true followers of Christ ought not to need convincing as it comes to committing to the marriage they entered into before their God. They are not ambivalent about honoring their own words and commitments.

If a cheater is egging you on to convince them to stay in the marriage and work on the issues there, please walk away. They already showed they lack integrity by cheating on you.

Besides, it is not your job to convince another person of the value of keeping their own vows to you and God. 

Do you really want to be married to someone who needs such convincing? I sure don’t.

Values and who one truly worships do not align if one needs to do that sort of convincing. They just don’t.

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