“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater.

Did you get this line (or a version of it) from your Cheater?

These disordered freaks actually think this makes things better. They say this as a way to get a “pass” of sorts for their nasty, wicked behavior.

They are–again–protecting themselves at the cost of caring for the victim, the faithful spouse. Cheaters want you thinking well of them as opposed to thinking about the harm that they did, which makes them look bad. So, they talk about their “good” intentions.

Sorry, your intentions, don’t matter here. The impact on the faithful spouse of your sin does!

We are not in a position to judge intentions. That is a fruitless exercise. What we can judge is actions and how those actions impact us.

Whether or not the Cheater intended to hurt the faithful spouse does not alter the fact that they did!

The real question a Cheater ought to ask themselves is not about their intentions. They need to ask themselves if they are willing to do whatever it takes to make things right after wronging their spouse. The Cheater needs to stop trying to make excuses and make it clear they own their sin fully.

“You didn’t intended to hurt me? Whatever. Tell it to Jesus or your therapist.

Honestly, I don’t care about your so called intentions. That does not change the fact you betrayed me. How about an apology and offer of restitution instead of a lame excuse about your golden intentions?!”

 

 

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*A version of this post ran previously.