“I think it’s best for both of us if we live apart.”
-Cheater
Cheaters saying this is speaking for both parties to serve their own nefarious agenda–i.e. unfettered access to cheat.
Strange how Cheaters get to decide for the whole couple what is best! They did not ask but rather told their partner what is “best.” It sounds like they are speaking of what they want and simply labeling that as “best” for both.
Now, they may or may not be self-aware about this.
It is possible that they are so self-deceived that they believe the lie about the separation benefits. However, I would be very skeptical of this “noble lie.”
An honest cheater would say,
“I don’t like the accountability of having to come home to you. It is a drag being reminded that I am married, and I rather avoid consequences of you learning of my cheating.”
A cheater seeking this separation is probably several steps ahead of the faithful spouse. They likely know more about their cheating behavior than the faithful spouse–who may be clueless at this point.
The cheater saying this sort of thing is trying to look noble while doing something ignoble–i.e. shirking their marriage vows.
It is not for the benefit of both individuals. This is a request designed to benefit the cheater. Make no mistake!
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*A version of this post ran previously.
