Cheater-Speak: “It is not the cheating. The real problem is how you….”

“It is not the cheating. The real issue is how you … (let yourself go, never talk with me, don’t bring in enough money, etc.)”

-Cheater

Cheaters want to talk about anything except their lies and infidelity.

That would mean taking responsibility for their sins. It would be honest. And we know cheaters struggle with honestly (to put it mildly).

Please be aware this is a common dynamic.

Do not allow the abuse to go unaddressed.

You do not “make” someone abuse you.

That includes infidelity.

Such abuse is on the abuser–i.e. the cheater–not you (see 2 Corinthians 5:10).