Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed.
-John 3:20, NIV
Have you ever noticed how the answers often go vague when a cheater is caught and is questioned regarding their sins?
The cheater can vividly describe your “shortcomings.” No problem there. The therapist or pastor needs to know those, right?!
As soon as the jig is up for them, they clam up about what they did or are doing. Details no longer matter in their opinion.
“Did you have intercourse with Sam?” asks the faithful spouse.
“We are friends. It’s best if I don’t get into the details,” says the cheater.
Sadly, many pastors and therapists will let the cheater get away with that sort of vague answer. They don’t want to scare him or her away from their office.
However, the exposure of the sin to light is precisely what the faithful spouse needs for their healing!
Many of us will never get a clean and clear admission from our cheater. However, we know enough to know their sinful behavior is unacceptable to us. That is what matters.
