Cheaters sometimes claim they were free to cheat because “the marriage was over.”
Some even say this even though they were attending couple’s counseling with a therapist and/or pastor. The faithful spouse was kept in the dark during this time, obviously.
Public Service Announcement:
Cheaters, attending couple’s sessions is NOT signaling the marriage is over!
I honestly find it hard to fathom how a cheater can go to these sessions telling the counselor or pastor how awful their spouse allegedly is while cheating in secret on the same spouse. That is some wickedly twisted stuff!
The cruel dishonesty of the cheater in those sort of circumstances is truly the pits.
How many faithful spouses endured the abuse from the cheater in these sessions only to have them change their “requirements to stay married”? How many honestly tried to face one’s “shortcomings” in the marriage only to discover the “game” was stacked against them?
The cheater preferred cheating and lying over honoring their marriage vows before God. Some might have even enjoyed the power of tormenting their faithful spouse.
Those cheaters think it was okay to cheat because the marriage was already over in their minds, and so, they gave themselves a pass–how big of them.
A gift in this for divorced faithful spouses is to be free from such disordered individuals. An individual unwilling to acknowledge the evil of such behavior is not fit for marriage (or any significant human relationship) in that state.
You dodged a bullet…even if it left a bloody mark.
