Cheaters framing vice as virtue

Last night, Mrs. DM and I watched the movie “Downsizing” with actor, Matt Damon, starring.

It is a futuristic movie about a world where you can opt to undergo an irreversible procedure shrinking you to a fraction of your true size and thereby enter a world where you money goes a long ways.

***SPOILER ALERT***

Matt Damon’s character, Paul Safranek, decides to undergo this procedure with his wife, Audrey Safranek. The reasoning being is how she wants a big house that they currently could not afford in the normal-sized world.

They are set to undergo the procedure. Paul goes through all the preparation work including shaving all body hair and removing all dental filings. Then he is shrunk.

They are told that they will be united in the recovery room after the procedure is complete and they wake up from the anesthesia. Paul wakes up but Audrey isn’t there.

She calls him and tells him that she could not go through with the procedure.* Then she frames this (selfish act) as a virtuous choice of hers to listen to what “she wants.” It was about listening to her own wishes instead of being dragged through the procedure (because of him, allegedly).

They end up divorcing in the movie.

 Cheaters like to frame vice as virtue

This movie really reminded me how cheaters operate. They caste the faithful spouse as the “controlling” one. Then they set themselves as the virtuous martyr awakening to their own agency.

Like Audrey, they poop on the faithful spouse’s sacrifices for them.

They talk about being true to themselves and finding “happiness.” The idea of actually being true to their own word seems antithetical to this self-discovery.

Breaking their promises is caste as virtue as opposed to what it is:

Vice!

They are blind–willingly or not–to their own selfishness just as Audrey is. It is saddening and maddening.

But also like Paul, faithful spouses are better off without the selfish spouse in our lives. He goes on in the movie and ends up in a much better place by the end.


*As a side note, Mrs. DM–aka Ms. Feistypants–informed me if I pulled an “Audrey” on her, she would find me and take me out. Being pint-size wouldn’t stop her from her revenge. #truelove

3 thoughts on “Cheaters framing vice as virtue”

  1. I watched that movie and had that same reaction. Very much a cheater mind set. It had a good moral to the story hidden amongst the usual Hollkwood crud.

  2. I have never commented before. Wanted to briefly share my story. In a nutshell, my STBXH told me that God had told him I was going to die and that he was to marry his true one flesh AP. This was in July 2016. They moved in together in October 2016 after I kicked him out.

    He would continually tell me she was his future and I could not take it anymore. We all went to church together. They continue to go to church and the pastor asked my husband to lead communion and preach to the congregation about five weeks ago. It is on their website for anyone to listen to.

    The preacher and his wife are best friends with them! To add to this stench in God’s nostrils, rumor has it that the preacher and the woman my husband is with, had an affair.

    Needless to say, they crucify our Precious Lord and Savior over and over.

    Speechless in New Mexico

    1. Hmmmm…well if the preacher has the same character, I guess I could understand why he’s letting stbxh preach instead of going through Matthew 18 discipline with him. (And that pastor needs to be removed from his position!) I hope you are looking for a loving, Bible believing church instead of this one…

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