The only “communication” issue needing addressing stat is the absolute, verified ending the affair.
A cheater can keep a pastor and faithful spouse chasing random rabbit trails for a very long time if they are convinced the marriage issues are anything other than ending the affair. Lot of energy can be lost focusing on secondary issues.
I almost said that the affair is not a communication issue, but it is:
The affair communicates utter contempt for the faithful spouse and God. A “communication” problem does exist, after all.
Until that contempt is addressed, the marriage has no hope for restoration, in my opinion. Certainly, it has no hope for godly restoration.
We all can grow in our skills as communicators. This, though, is a red herring when a cheater focuses sessions on such skill building.
The real present danger is the affair–not the alleged faithful spouse’s lack in communication prowess.
Please do not fall for this cheater tactic. It serves neither party spiritually in the end.
