Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God.
-1 Corinthians 2:12, KJV
A few weeks ago, I was thinking about slowing things down on this blog as far as posts were concerned. It has existed as a daily blog since its conception over five years ago.
The reason I have made it a daily blog is that I remember how important having a word each day was for me during my darkest season. Hence, I post daily to help others in their own difficult time.
That said, I was starting to wonder if the blog had run its course. It seems the world of blogging is going away as podcasting rises. However, God got my attention with a comment left on the blog by a new follower.
She wrote:
When I found out my husband was committing adultery with a woman from the church we belonged to and they were “told by God that I was going to die so they could marry each other”, I realized there was no hope.
One night in prayer in my head, I heard the words “google divorce minister”. At first, I resisted, thinking I was losing my mind and was hearing something off the wall.
It was so persistent, I finally gave in and googled divorce minister. To my utter shock, your website popped up.
You have helped me in so many ways to stay strong, file for divorce, and realize I was not at fault and that adultery is truly soul rape. The most painful thing I have ever been thru.
My ex and the woman married two weeks to the day after our divorce. Eleven weeks later he came knocking on my door crying and telling me what a mess he was in. I sent him away reminding him of his words, she is the love of my life, I never knew this kind of love exists, etc. I also told him he needed to be true to his new wife.
I was vindicated, another thing the Lord had told me would happen thru my doctor no less.
The point of all of this is God has placed you for such a time as this and leads hurting people here for the help they need!
Sincerely,
Debra
This was a mighty encouragement to me that this blog still has a place in God’s plans in helping faithful spouses.
If anyone is wondering if we serve a living God, this testimony sure is strong evidence we do!
Thanks, “Debra,” for sharing your testimony of how God brought you hear and used this ministry to help you!
DM I’m sure it’s hard to come up with something to write every day. And if you reduce posts it’s certainly understandable. But I assure you many read it though they may not comment. I’m a male betrayed and have been reading since you started. It does give hope, faith and comfort. Plus it’s more convenient and less conspicuous than listening to a podcast. Thanks for the good work.
I’m amazed at how many of your posts were exactly what I needed when you posted them. I had the exact topic on my mind and I came here and the daily post was about that topic. It must be God’s working.
Yes, Greg.
I agree. It is God’s working. All of the Divorce Minister’s Blogs have truly brought much clarity and healing into my life. Praise God in the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
I will add this as well, I would love for DM to create a book/course for helping rebuild your life afterwards. I’m really struggling in that area.
Hello mighty Man of God, Divorce Minister! This is Debra, the writer of the testimony you shared.
I came here again at 4 something in the morning needing to read kind and Godly words and scripture based counseling.
I went “pain shopping” on FB and found pictures of my ex and the OW, now wife, tucking it up with the pastor and other church members. Pics of them running the soundboard and my ex raising his hands in worship and praying for others during the time
we were divorcing and them living together with the seal of approval from the minister on down.
Without your blog reassuring us that we are not to blame, that adultery is soul rape, etc., I would not have made it.
I too, would go to bed and beg God to take me because I couldn’t stand the grief and pain and being treated as I was by so called Christians who believed the lies of the cheater about me. He was the saint and I was the bad wife/sinner who caused him to cheat.
I thank God for you! Your ministry is a miracle for the hurting innocent spouses!
I’m sorry this is such a long reply but I can’t say it enough, we need you DM and our Savior Jesus who works thru you!
That was supposed to say yucking it up or in other words laughing it up with the minister and church members. I might add the minister was touching the OW in a most inappropriate way, his arm and hand around her waist.
I have always felt he was her pimp to her temple prostitute ways. My ex was not the first man she tried to take from a wife. In fact, my ex is her fourth husband. The minister did everything he could to help them get and stay together. She knows where all the dead bodies are buried if you get my drift.