I discovered many calls and texts between my (now) ex-wife and her adultery partner. They were at all times of the day and night.
One of my counselors asked if I was interested in calling the Other Man (OM). I really was not interested.
Looking back, I think I did not want to engage this person in a fight over my (now) ex-wife. That is what she wanted. It would have fed her ego.
While what he did was wrong, I still place the majority of the blame for the adultery on her. She was the one who broke her marriage vows to me. If it wasn’t him, I think it would have been another young fool.
That said, I wondered recently if he would tell me things I did not know about my ex. It would not surprise me if he broke things off with her before that last Thanksgiving when she finally confessed to the adultery with him.
Who knows?
Ultimately, I think it is best not to engage in that conversation. It would not change that she committed adultery and lied about it for months. Any more details beyond that is not really necessary.
I am free from that character mess! PTL!!!
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